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  • Top 10 Reasons Why I DON'T Write...

    Top 10 Reasons Why I DON'T Write...

    I'm over at J. Andersen's blog today, talking about the 10 reasons I don't write (a very tongue in cheek way of saying why I do write ;) )

    Here's a preview...

    10. I don’t write… to change the world because that would be silly. I write to make money and live the ‘good life’.
    (Because ALL authors live in mansions and eat dinner off the ripped abs of the hired help ;) )

    To read more, visit J. ANDERSEN'S blog HERE :)

    And check out J's book, AT WHAT COST, Available now.

    During her junior year, sixteen-year-old Maggie Reynolds expected to shop for prom dresses not maternity clothes. Now, instead of studying for the SATs, she’s reading, What to Expect When You’re Expecting. Maggie’s ‘Mother Dearest’ lives in fear that Maggie will somehow taint the family name, so Maggie can’t turn to her for help. Meanwhile, her father is oblivious to anything but his 9-9 job. And her boyfriend, Justin? She’s pretty sure he’ll stay by her side.

    While Maggie wrestles with her options, Justin offers a solution: abortion. It would solve all her problems quickly, easily, and effectively. And her parents would never know, which means they won’t throw her out and cut her off like they’d always threatened if she got herself knocked up. But an easy decision becomes difficult when Maggie’s aunt discovers her secret and sets out on a mission to stop the abortion, putting a kink in Maggie’s plan. Now Maggie must decide which choice she can live with: abortion or teenage motherhood. Either way, it’ll be a tough road to travel.

  • "What is Love?" Week 1

    "What is Love?" Week 1

    What is Love? 1 Corinthians 13:1-13
    A Bible Study /Series
    Introduction: Week 1
    Romans 13:10 Love does no wrong to others so love fulfills the requirements of God’s law.

    Welcome to the "What is Love?" Bible Study! I’m so excited that you chose (yes you CHOSE) to join in this venture with me.

    I'm going to be honest with you, I had most of this written. Well, all of it is written, but some of it is typed. A few weeks ago, God said, "Rewrite it." (Yeah, THAT was awesome ;) ) Ok, I had worked on this for months... and God wanted it re-written.
    Oh. MY!
    I wanted to know why, of course, and I believe it is because I was trying to make it too 'formal'. I had written it like I 'thought' a 'bible study' should be written... not like how *I* write, and not how God wanted it (Sorry... )
    SO, bear with me. We are going to go with the bones of the old-- but add new on top of it. We are going to learn together-- informally. If you have a question, post it (either here on on my facebook page). If you have a comment, write it. If you want to discuss something, let us have it :) I know this is 'online' and we can't see each other, but we can learn so much by interaction. Lets really take time to discuss this. To learn about it, and at the end of the 12 weeks, we *SHOULD* be able to answer the question, "What is Love?"
    So, you may be asking yourself, "What have I clicked on?"
    Well... for the next 12 weeks, I'm going to post about 1 Corinthians 13. We are going to take the entire book and dissect it verse by verse (combining a few of them) and REALLY see what love is, how we are supposed to love, and what else God has in store for us while studying it.
    If you have no idea what you’ve gotten yourself into, you’re not alone. When I started this, it was only intended (by me) to be at most a 3 part series on marriage. However, the more I learned… the more I studied….the more God put on my heart…the more I realized how MUCH there is to learn from this ONE chapter in the Bible. And its not all for married people! I realize that these verses are quoted at many weddings, but the kind of love it talks about spans the gamut of relationships.
    Husband/Wife
    Parent/Child
    You/Neighbors
    You/Enemies
    Oh yes! Even our enemies! (Ouch)

    We are to love them all, and this Bible Study in intended to give us the tools to do that.

    When I thought of love, to be very honest with you, the first thing that popped into my mind is the movie Moulin Rouge. Now, I know it might not be the best thing to start the first day of my first Bible Study with the movie Moulin Rouge. But, hey, it serves the purpose.
    Moulin Rouge is classified as a “Love Stor y”, however it really starts out as a ‘Lust Story’. The rich guy lusts for the high priced –prostitute—and so does the penniless sitar player. He does eventually fall in love with her—but ‘lust’ ends up causing her death (sorry for the spoiler if you haven’t seen it yet….)

    The point of this is not to recommend Moulin Rouge, but instead to start off this series by understanding the differences between love and lust.

    Remember, we are trying to answer the question, "What is love?" not "What is Lust?"

    · Lust is of the flesh.
    · Love is of the heart .
    · Lust can get us in trouble.
    · Love can get us out of it.
    · Lust is ONLY physical.
    · Love is physical, emotional and spiritual.
    Love, actual love for others, is what Paul spent an entire chapter discussing—in detail.
    Paul (the writer of Corinthians) was not a married man—and he seemed to like it that way (1 Corinthians 7:8—So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—its better to stay unmarried, just as I am.) However, he understood love. True love. Christian Love.

    THAT is the kind of love we will be studying about.
    Now, I’d like to take this opportunity to emphasis something. We aren’t perfect. We will never be able to achieve ‘Perfect True Love’. With God’s help, we can try. But we are human. We will fail. And God knows that. He understands that.

    So, you might be asking yourself ‘Why are we studying this if we won’t be able to totally achieve it?”

    That’s a good and valid question. We are supposed to try to live and love like Christ did. We know we won’t be able to do it completely because we aren’t Him. However, we are to strive to more like Jesus ( 1 John 4:17 And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.).

    Paul wanted us to strive to truly love everyone. He knew we’d have problems with it that’s why he gave us instructions on how to do it.

    It won’t be easy… and we won’t be perfect… but hopefully through these next weeks together, we will gain the tools so we can love more patiently and with more kindness, etc.

    So… what are our goals for this Bible Study/Series?
    · To learn tools to use in our lives to show love
    · To find out who we are supposed to love
    · To gain knowledge of “What IS love?”
    · To gain knowledge of the Bible through verse finds and daily “homework”

    So! Are you still with me!? I hope so! I’m so excited and ready to get these discussions underway! I want this to be an interactive study, so please join in. All you need is: a pencil or pen, notebook, and Bible. You can use any version of the Bible. My personal Bible is a New Living Translation version.

    For the next 12 weeks, I am committed to bringing you the Series the Lord put on my heart to present.. I’m praying for each participant—that this touches you in some way. Please, make the commitment with me to participate, learn, and study with me to see what God has in store for us.

    Ready?
    I know I am!!!!
    "So, Kelly, now that I'm all reved up, what happens next? Why do I have a notebook (that you have talked about for 2 months... )?"
    I'm so glad you asked ;)

    Each week I’ll post the lesson with 6 verses at the end. The verses are for the next week’s post so you will be ready and up to date. I recommend using the SOAP method each day with the verses.

    SOAP stands for Scripture, Observe, Apply, Pray. It is a great way to study each individual verse and see how something that was written thousands of years ago…. Applies to you today.

    Example: 1 Tim 1:5~
    *S*cripture 1 Timothy 1:5 The purpose of my instruction is that all believers would be filled with love that comes from a pure heart, a clear conscious, and genuine faith.
    *O*bservation: Everyone that believes in God need to be taught (instructed) on how to be filled with and use love that comes from a pure heart, clear conscious, and genuine faith.
    *A*pply: I need to make sure that I learn how to love genuinely. I need to strive to have a pure heart and a clear conscious, and if I don’t, I need to pray about it.
    *P*ray: God, please forgive me of my sins. I know that do don’t always have the purest heart or the clearest of conscience…. And sometimes genuine faith is overwhelming. However, I want to do that! I want to strive to be filled with love. I want to be instructed and in turn instruct others on how to do it.
    In Jesus name I pray, Amen

    *THAT* is the SOAP method and that’s the tool that I recommend you use for your daily verses in your notebook. If you don’t want to do it that way, that’s fine, but I do know that the SOAP method does help you understand the Bible Verses better.
    Another great idea (or something I like to do) is to write the verses in my own words. That way it is in language I can understand and I know that I've gotten the meaning out of it. Which every way (or even something different) that you want to do, will be awesome. One of our goals is to learn-- and everyone learns differently. (That's the teacher coming out in me lol)
    Sometimes throughout the Monday post, you will see these Q. That symbol means that it is a question that I’d like for you to answer in your notebook.
    Ok, I’ve talked enough. If you have any questions, please leave a comment below or ask on the facebook page. I’m asking that if you are participating in this, that you do leave a comment below and you do follow the facebook page NOT because I want more hits, but because I TRULY WANT you to LEARN from this and comments will make us accountable and the daily discussions on facebook will keep this study on our minds daily. Plus I genuinely want to know what is on your mind as we go through these next 12 weeks together. It's gonna be lonely if you don't...

    Here we go...

    Friends, here are our first verses to start this Bible Study. Our first 'official' week of finding out "What is Love?"

    Verses for Week 2:
    Tuesday: 1 Timothy 1:5

    Wednesday: Romans 13:9

    Thursday: Galatians 5:14

    Friday: Leviticus 19:18

    Saturday: 1 Corinthians 13:1 (the first verse of our Series)
    Sunday: REVIEW all verses for TOMORROW's post.
    Thank you so much for showing interest in this study and I pray that it touches you-- that you learn something-- and that you have a great time. :)
    Much love, Kelly
    Linked with: Women Living Well Wednesday and Encouraging Words Wednesday and Best of 2011 Blog Hop

  • NELL DIXON-- Chatting about LIGHTS, CAMERA, POLTERGEIST

    NELL DIXON-- Chatting about LIGHTS, CAMERA, POLTERGEIST

    Today, I'm super excited to have NELL DIXON, author of Lights, Camera, Poltergeist on my blog! Nell is a fellow Astraea Press author and writes 'Romance with Heart'. I used to love 'Ghosthunters' (until 30+ year old me started having nightmares about it and had to stop watching... sigh), so this book seems right up my alley :)
    HERE's NELL:

    Hi, and many thanks for inviting me to talk about Lights, Camera, Poltergeist! My latest release from Astraea Press.
    This story is set in a crumbling Scottish Manor House, ancestral home of Sir Giles, Laird of Fingelly. The Ghost UK TV team are there on Valentine’s Eve to make a live show about the poltergeist who is alleged to haunt the Manor.
    When I was younger I toured many of the fortified Manor Houses that are dotted along the Scottish borders. Many of them are quite spooky places and ideal as a setting for a story full of ghosts, romance and mystery!
    Things don’t just go bump in the night, sometimes they throw tea cups! As the presenter for Ghost UK, the leading TV show investigating paranormal activity, Fae thought she’d seen it all. Until a Valentine’s Eve live show from Scotland’s Fingelly Manor upsets both her preconceptions and her love life.

    Lights, Camera, Poltergeist! by Nell Dixon

    Fae snuggled down deeper into the chunky knitted roll neck of her sweater and wished she could shake off the eerie sensations. She puffed out a sigh and watched her breath condense in the air before her face. It wasn’t only the room that was chilly. The relationship between herself and John had taken on a distinctly frosty tinge lately too. She strolled across the room to the huge diamond leaded window that would have filled the room with light if it hadn’t been shrouded in dust and some dark red velvet drapes that had seen better days. Out in the corridor the electricians and tech staff were hammering and cursing the ancient electrical wiring. The afternoon light had already started to fade and fingers of frost were beginning to form at the corners of the window. A flicker of movement near the trees on the far side of the lawn caught her attention and she leaned forward, almost bumping her nose against the glass in her quest to see what it was. Whatever or whoever she thought she’d seen had vanished and she relaxed back on her heels. Working as a presenter on Ghost UK had made her jumpy. Every dark corner now held the possibility of something spooky. In such a deserted spot it was unlikely that anyone would be outside in the grounds, especially in this freezing weather. “Fae, darling, there you are!” She turned around to see her producer, Tim, sweeping towards her. She pasted a fake smile on her lips when she saw he was accompanied by the owner of the house, Giles McGinty, Laird of Fingelly. She’d already met Giles when she’d arrived and her impressions hadn’t been favourable. “Giles has invited us all to dinner tonight before we start filming. Isn’t that marvellous?” Tim raised his eyebrows at her. “That’s very kind.” Fae was quick enough to pick up the signal. Giles smiled at her, his gaze lingering just a fraction of a second too long on her bust before raising his gaze to her face. “The pleasure is all mine. I’m looking forward to getting to know you all better before the filming.” She suppressed a shudder as his dark eyes locked on her face. “John and I will look forward to it.”
    © Nell Dixon 2013 http://www.nelldixon.com Romance with Heart You can get a copy of Lights, Camera, Poltergeist from all good etailers, including: Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Lights-Camera-Poltergeist-ebook/dp/B00AW5JC9I/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1357229745&sr=8-1&keywords=lights%2C+camera%2C+poltergeist
    Amazon UK http://www.amazon.co.uk/Lights-Camera-Poltergeist-ebook/dp/B00AW5JC9I/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1357229677&sr=8-1

    Why not read more about Fae in Cue Me In? Haunted happenings in a Welsh Castle. http://www.amazon.com/Cue-Me-In-ebook/dp/B005XSEQJU/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1357038762&sr=8-1&keywords=cue+me+in

  • Tip #50: Great Bug Chill Out

    Tip #50: Great Bug Chill Out

    Want to know the secrets to getting great bug shots like you see in magazines? Here are a few pointers to get you started.

    Live where they do

    Okay, if you life in Canada—like moi—you’re not going to find a cool Praying Mantis wandering about your backyard. At least you won’t find them in Southern Alberta. For those shots, you need to visit the tropics or maybe the zoo (assuming they have a bug exhibit). Otherwise, you have to be content with what favors your backyard or local parks.

    Consider the time of day

    Both of these shots were taken late afternoon or early evening when the bugs were drowsy. Some bugs, like lady bugs, tend to be quieter when it’s hot; whereas others, such as bees, won’t stay still long enough for you to take a shot of them during the heat of the day.

    Types of lens

    The dragonfly was pretty big to begin with, so I was able to shoot the picture with the macro feature on my lens. It’s not the same thing as using a specialty macro lens, though. If you’re really into taking bug shots, then you might want to invest in one of the high price lenses that are designed for close up work. Talk to your professional camera store to find out which focal length is best for your needs. Just remember, they can only be used on a SLR camera.

    The bee shot was taken with the same lens I used for the dragonfly, but I added a close up filter designed to magnify the bug. Just like a magnifying glass. It’s cheaper than buying the specialty lens. There are pros and cons to consider when going this route, but for my purpose, it was perfect.

    Some camera makes (Nikon and Canon) also allow for equipment such as extension tubes and bellows, which are also cheaper than buying a specialty lens. These are found only through professional camera stores.

    Don’t forget your tripod

    This is essential, especially if you’re taking pictures in the evening when the lighting is less than idea (tip # 8) or if you’re using a lens filter which automatically narrows your depth of field (tip # 7). This will help keep your camera steady. Unfortunately the sunflower—where the bee was hanging out—was nodding in the ever-so-slight breeze. I also had to take tons of shots to get a few goods ones because the bee kept moving as she gathered the pollen. Yes, I know it’s a she because apparently the only thing male bees do is have sex with the queen. Yup, go figure.

    Other secrets

    Ready for this one? Your mom might not appreciate it, though. A lot of bugs you see in those cool magazine shots are either dead or have been refrigerated. Pleasant, huh? Those of us who live in colder climates can attest to how much slower we get during the winter. Makes sense the bugs feel the same way after a spell in the fridge or freezer. Just don’t forget they’re there. You don’t want to freak your mom out, right?

    So there you go. Five secrets to great bug shots. Enjoy!

  • Author Guest Post: My Writerly Tips

    Author Guest Post: My Writerly Tips

    If you haven’t heard, Heather McCorkle’s book, The Secrets of Spruce Knoll, is now available. I love love love the cover and can’t wait to read the book (it’s on my iPod).

    I asked Heather to share with us some of her favorite writing tips.

    <<<3

    Thank you for having me over Stina! As you know, I love helping writers in any way I can and I'm thrilled to share my writing tips in hopes that they may help others. I'll jump right in.

    #1. In the beginning set small daily goals for as many days a week as you feel you can handle. Do your best to stick to them, whether they are a sentence a day, a paragraph, or a few pages. Small accomplishments help keep me motivated and moving forward.

    #2. Give yourself permission to write a first draft that is truly rough. No one but you should ever see the first draft anyway so go for it, let it all out and don't be afraid of how good or bad it is. You can fix it later, that's what editing is for!

    #3. This is a big one because it is what stops a lot of people from ever finishing: Write straight through the first draft. You will change so much once it's written that who knows what you'll keep or cut. This advice has helped propel me forward when I would have stalled out and quit writing a book altogether.

    #4. When it's time to edit try to read through it as though you're an acquiring editor or an agent who is looking for a reason to reject it. Look for character arcs, story arcs, plot twists, plot holes, grammar, sentence structure, voice, and flow. Break it down into a few different editing passes over the entire manuscript. Yes you'll end up reading it until you can almost recite it, but it will be better for it if you can focus on one issue per read through.

    #5. Share you work with others! Join a critique group and/or find a beta reader or two. If this makes you nervous think of it this way, the critiques you get will help develop the tough skin you're going to need to be able to approach agents, and it will make your novel better. A secret tip I'll throw in with this one: Read your novel aloud. It will shock you how much more you'll catch by doing this!

    ~Heather

    Book blurb: It’s hard enough being a teenager under normal circumstances; imagine being orphaned, sent to live with an unfamiliar aunt—and learning that there really is magic in the world. Following the tragic death of her parents, Eren Donovan moves to Spruce Knoll to live with her aunt. Little does Eren know the entire town of Spruce Knoll is filled with “channelers”—a magical group of people who immigrated to the small Colorado town when they were driven out of their own lands.

    Channelers are tied to the fate of the world. As the world slowly dies, so do they—and they alone have the power to stop the destruction of Earth. Now, Eren learns she not only lives among them, but she is one. When she meets local boy Aiden, his charm convinces her that being a channeler may not be all bad.

    As Eren and Aiden’s relationship blooms, so too does a mystery in Spruce Knoll. The town holds many secrets—and many enemies. It soon becomes apparent that the untimely death of Eren’s parents-and Aidens-was no accident and that her life might be in danger, too. Only time will tell if Eren has the power to protect the people she has come to love.

  • Why My Husband Rocks?

    Why My Husband Rocks?

    Sunday is Father's Day. To celebrate, I'm going to talk a bit about my husband.

    What? What?! You have a husband?

    Yes, Dear Reader. *I* have a husband. I don't talk about him much because, well, I kinda told him I wouldn't (long story)... but I DID tell him I was doing this, and he was ok about it. Who doesn't like be bragged on sometimes?

    Anyway, I thought I'd get all of my husband's awesomeness out in one post... well... the majority of his awesomeness. I could probably think of more if given the opportunity.

    Backstory: The hubs (Brandon) and I have been married for 8 years. We dated a grand total of 2 months before we tied the knot... so, yeah-- we knew so much about each other going into this.

    Over the past 8 years, we have had to figure each other out... what makes the other person tick... learn how to live with each other's faults (me more than him... Ok, so *maybe* I had some faults along the way myself... *maybe*).

    AND we have 3 little ladies! (2 of which are TOTAL Daddy's girls... Apparently they don't realize that Mama carried and birthed them... but whatever, right... hehe)

    We have a nice routine now... well, sometimes it's nice. It's hard. We don't work the same shift so it does get lonely at times... I'm not going to lie. But we try to make it work as best we can. Some days its only a brief kiss and a 5 minute conversation. I truly admire military families who don't even have that daily.

    I've thought how best to descrive his awesomeness. I didn't want to get all mushy because we aren't mushy people. So then I decided that ye ole 'Top 5 List' would be the best way to go.

    So...

    Without further ado...

    The Top 5 Reasons My Husband Rocks

    1. He cleans out the mouse traps.
    Wait!!! Whoa! Stop the train, Nelly-Bell. You mean to tell me 'That's' your number ONE? What about because you love him... or what about how the awesomeness of his being a father? Mouse traps are your number ONE???? (See how cleaverly I can read your mind... )

    Well... yes... THAT is my number one and there is a very good reason why... ALL of that other stuff, the love, the awesomeness of being a father... THAT is a given. I wouldn't have married him if Ididn't love him (no shotguns were required... ). I wouldn't have had a baby with him if I hadn't thought he would be a good father...

    And I wouldn't have had 2 more if he wasn't one.

    All of those things are 'givens'. My top 5 are things he does that make me appreciate him more...

    WHICH leads us back to He cleans out mouse traps.
    I hate mice... I hate mice with a fiery passion. I'm not entirely sure if I'd rather see a dead mouse or a live mouse. All mice pretty much freak me out... Thankfully, the hubs takes care of those rather nasty creatures (sorry nasty creatures for putting you in the company of mice... I'm sure mice have their purpose.. just not in my house!). So score one for the husband!

    2. He holds my hand when I'm scared...
    Even when its a scary movie... in which case he might laugh at me while he's doing it, but it's the thought that counts, right???

    3. Sometimes he says the right thing--- and I don't even have to tell him what it is.
    I feel bad for my husband at times. I'll be upset over something and honestly I won't know why I'm upset and he doesn't either. But he does try to listen. He's not perfect of course--but he does try to make me feel better. Can't ask for much more than that.

    4.He loves to cook--- and is much better at it than I am.
    I'm not a cook. I've never been able to cook well... I can cook tolerable (ie, it's edible). But my husband is a terrific cook. That man can throw something together that you think would be nasty (or I would), but it's really really good when he's finished. My kids have a treat when Daddy cooks. I know he would more if he had the time. Time is a fleeting thing sometimes.

    5. He is really good at decorating.
    Ok, that one kinda irks me.. only because I'm SO jealous of it! I wish I could just look at something and 'make it work'.

    In preparing this post, I asked my ladies why their daddy rocked.

    They said:

    The 5 year old: "Because he plays monster with us!"

    The 4 year old: "Because he is happy."

    The 11 month old can't talk (well she can, but... you know what I mean), but she is a TOTAL Daddy's girl--Never saw a girl's eyes light up so much when she saw her Daddy like E's (thanks kid... )

    There are many other reasons why he rocks... like he knows exactly how to kiss me and make me swoon--even after 8 years.
    ... like how much he loves God--even if his work keeps him from church sometimes.
    ... like how sometimes he stays awake over 24 hours to do something with us.

    You get the idea.

    So, that's it. Now you know there is an actual "Mr." in this home, and that he's a pretty special guy.

    Much love-- and don't forget Quest #4 is due tomorrow!!! :)

    Kelly (aka... 'The Mrs.')

    (P.S. I'm entering this into the "My Husband Rocks" writing contest linked above, however, I had already thought about writing something like this for a while. I just needed a bit of... what is that word????? Ah... MOTIVATION

  • Before I Fall

    Before I Fall

    Book burb: What if you had only one day to live? What would you do? Who would you kiss? And how far would you go to save your own lifeSamantha Kingston has it all: the world’s most crush-worthy boyfriend, three amazing best friends, and first pick of everything at Thomas Jefferson High—from the best table in the cafeteria to the choicest parking spot. Friday, February 12, should be just another day in her charmed life.

    Instead, it turns out to be her last.

    Then she gets a second chance. Seven chances, in fact. Reliving her last day during one miraculous week, she will untangle the mystery surrounding her death—and discover the true value of everything she is in danger of losing.

    First line: They say that just before you die your whole life flashes before your eyes, but that’s not how it happened for me.

    Let me just say right off that I loved the book. I wasn’t sure what to expect at first, especially considering I was going to live through the same sequence of events seven times. But I didn’t. Each time Samantha repeats that fated day, she learns something about herself, her friends, and the people whose lives they impacted, and not necessarily in a positive way. With this knowledge she approaches each redo in a different way, each time with a different goal. A lot of what she does is trial and error, knowing its effects won’t make a difference for the next redo.

    Yes, there is romance, but it doesn’t come in the form of her crush-worthy boyfriend. Instead, it’s her old friend who she no longer talks to, and who she refers to as a stalker in the beginning. I’m not going to tell if they end up together, because you’re going to have to read the book. Seriously, you have to read the book.

    One thing I will say is that you won’t be able to predict the ending. Well, at least, I didn’t. I was actually in shock because it didn’t go the way I thought it would. Was I happy with the ending? I’m not going to say. I think some people will be happy, others not so much. But in the end, it’s the right ending.

    Wow, talk about being cryptic. *grins*

  • "What is Love?" Bible Study: Week 12

    "What is Love?
    A Bible Study
    Week 12
    "The End"
    Verse for the week:
    1 Corinthians 13:13 Three things will last forever: faith, hope, and love-- and the greatest of these is love.
    *********************** Well, friends, we made it!
    Not only is this the last week of the 12 week 'Love' Bible Study, but it is also my 200th post on this blog! Kinda poetic somehow that it occured at the same time. :)
    For the past 12 weeks, we have had one mission in this Bible Study, to determine "What is Love?"
    We have looked at it from lots of angles. I'm sure there are hundreds more we could consider, but I won't. These past 12 weeks have been what I felt God wanted me to share with you :) The good, the bad, and the ugly.
    We have one more verse to look at before we close the book (so to speak) on this study.
    1 Corinthians 13:13-- "Three things will last forever: faith, hope, and love-- and the greatest of these is love.
    Your love will never die!
    Want to make a difference in the world? Statues of famous people, monuments, they all crumble. People forget what they did. They have no idea who they ever were. But love, showing love, that lasts an eternity. One act of kindness from you can change a life... that can change another life, and so on.
    It will live on generation after generation through the people you love now.
    The people you help...
    The people you encourage...
    The people you love...
    That will never go away.
    Do you realize you are changing history? Right now, at this very minute, you are affecting the outcome of someone else's life. Some changes are big. Some are small. Some are good. Some are bad. But everything you do affects someone in some way.
    Examples: *Buying a Gideon Bible could be the very one placed that helps someone on the brink of suicide decide they have something to live for.
    *Giving food to the needy/food drive can cause someone to think, "Maybe there IS still goodness in the world."
    *Chosing to talk to a friend about God can result in them being saved (even if it's not in your lifetime.)
    You choices change lives.
    That goes for the negative along with the postive, unfortunately.
    Examples of that would be: *Gossiping can cause a sinner to think, "I'm no worse than she is. Why do I need God?"
    *Hate for another person can keep us from telling them about Jesus which could seriously affect their future.
    *A poor decision (drinking and driving) can affect so many lives.
    We think we are all tiny, insignificant people in this vast sea of ever changing humanity. Once we are gone, we figure we will be forgottena bout.
    But our legacy of love never dies.
    If we only helped one person and that person helped someone else--- after a while everyone would be helped causing love to grow.
    And your charity, faithfullness, and love for God planted the seed.
    One hundred years from now, your name might not be remembered, but the effects of your love will stil be going strong-- like a never-ending, far reaching wave.
    Notebook Question: What are some ways you are spreading love? What ways can you think of that you could do more?
    12 weeks ago, we started out to answer the simple question "What is love?"
    Well, here is the answer: Love is simply one thing. Love is the outbpouring of your heart for the wellbeing of another person.
    Notebook Question: How do you define love?
    People won't always treat us right and we will feel down. There is always some injustice in the world (or in our community).
    We can't change the wrongs in the world-- but we can-- through love-- create positives to counteract them.
    Faith/hope/love will endure forever.
    You, with God's help, have the power to change lives.
    How can we show love? Simple (1 Cor. 13:1-13) *Be patient *Be kind *Don't be jealous *Don't boast *Don't be rude *Don't be demanding *Don't be iriatable *Don't keep a record of being wronged *Don't rejoice in injustice. *Never give up *Never lose faith *Always be hopeful *Endure through everything.
    A tall order to be sure.
    Will we be perfect? Nope.
    But thankfully we serve One who is-- One who lives in our heart and helps us love others like he did.
    I'd love to close this Bible Study with one of the greatest acts of love ever committed.
    John 3:16-- "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son. That whosoever believeth in him should not perish-- but have everlasting life."
    God Bless You, and thank you So much for taking the time to do this bible study. If it has helped you in any way or if you have any questions, I'd love to hear from you.
    Kelly

  • LOVE FLOURISHES-- Lynn Spangler

    LOVE FLOURISHES-- Lynn Spangler

    Enter to win a free ARC of THE DECEPTION OF DEVIN MILLER coming July 23rd, 2013. CLICK HERE...

    Can he show her the world like she’d never seen it before?

    Melinda ‘Mindy’ Caldwell had everything she could want. Nice house, high-end clothes. The only thing she doesn’t have is a life…outside her house that is. An incident when she was four left her an agoraphobic-a prisoner within the sanctuary of her home. Besides her sister, she finds companionship in the form of handsome delivery man Jack Eberley.
    Jack Eberley’s woman of his dreams won’t even leave her house. That does little to tamper his feelings toward her. He finds himself wanting to deliver more packages to her house and help her breakdown the walls she’s built around herself.
    One night will change each of their lives. Will they find love in the first blooms of spring or will they let their love slip away?
    “You have a... ” he paused for a moment as if searching for the right word, “liking for the man.”
    "No. Yes. Maybe,” she replied reluctantly.
    “Which is it?”
    His gentle tone did little to ease the churning in her stomach.
    If she wasn’t careful, she’d give herself an ulcer. Mindy curled a leg underneath her on the buttery soft leather loveseat, tucked long strands of hair behind her ears, and then nervously wrung her fingers together. No sense in hiding what was so obvious.
    Dr. Stamko’s face reflected infinite patience. He wouldn’t rush Mindy and would give her time to think the question through. “Yes,” she finally stated. Once the word left her mouth, a torrent followed. “I don’t know what to do. He’s so vibrant, so full of life. Jack deserves a woman who is equally spirited as himself. What am I?” She forged on, not giving Dr. Stamko time to answer. “I’ll tell you what I am. I’m broken.” Her hands lifted into the air and dropped again. “I’m defeated.”
    “No, you aren’t. One can’t be defeated before they’ve even tried. This gentleman might be what you need to draw you out. You need to give him the chance.”
    “What could I offer?” Pain etched her voice, making it break slightly. Tears burned and stung the back of her eyes. She fought valiantly against the torrent threatening to unleash itself.
    “Why are you fighting it?”
    His still gentle tone broke the dam. The first streams of wetness fell from her eyes. With hands covering her face, she shook with body racking sobs. After what seemed like an eternity later, she wiped the last of the tears away and raised her head. Dr. Stamko was smiling.
    “Feel better?” he asked.
    “I’m... I’m not sure. I just had a near nervous breakdown and you’re smiling.”
    “You didn’t break, Melinda. You merely chipped. You see your tears as a form of weakness?”
    “Why yes. Don’t you?”
    "No. Trapped emotions eat away at you. They can make you physically ill. Everybody has a different way of releasing those pent up feelings. Some can go through their whole life without shedding an emotional tear. Others find tears are their only course of action. You’re good at holding in the tenseness and stress. But you aren’t totally immune. Honestly, do you feel better?” The question gave Mindy pause. Never would she have guessed bawling her eyes out would leave her feeling cleansed, renewed, and invigorated. She smiled because she indeed did feel better. “I do. It feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I’m no closer to solving my dilemma but I feel lighter.”
    “Good. Now we need to figure out what you intend to do about Jack.” Dr. Stamko sat back in the wing chair and crossed one leg over the other.

    Author Bio: I live in South Central Pennsylvania with my wonderful, loving husband and my beautiful daughter. I also have a son who is currently serving in the U.S. Navy. I have a cat named Kolzig and a dog named Cede who allow us to live with them. I love to write and read. I also make jewelry when the mood strikes. I'm a huge sports fan. I love football, NASCAR, and hockey. I'm also a bit of a game show freak. I love old game shows from the 70's and 80's like Match Game and $25,000 Pyramid. Television shows like Criminal Minds and The Voice are also favorites of mine.

    Buy Links: Astraea PressAmazonBarnes and Noble

  • Which Comes First? The Character or The Plot

    Which Comes First? The Character or The Plot

    Some writers live to outline. They shudder at the thought of writing without the scaffolding. That would be, gasp, deadly.

    Other writers love to live dangerously and write by the seat of their pants.

    Each method works. And each comes with pros and cons. I’m curious though. How many writers come up with a detailed plot first, and how many focus on characterization before anything else?

    For me, I’ll have an idea for a book and jot down notes. Maybe even the logline. I’ll then work on the characterization for the main characters (the protagonist and the key secondary characters). I have an extensive questionnaire, but I also work through a personalizing exercise described in Getting into Character: Seven Secrets A Novelist Can Learn From Actors by Brandilyn Collins. (Check out this post for more info)

    It’s during this process that I come up with more ideas for my story. Then I organize my outline based on these. The end product might be different from what I’d first envisioned, but that’s okay. It still works with my logline and the story is way better than what I’d originally planned.

    So for me, I definitely have to outline. But characterization comes mostly before plot. Of course, I still need to have some idea of the plot before I start; otherwise, the characters would be all over the place.

    What about you? Do you outline? Do you figure out your characters first before the plot? Or do you just jump in and worry about your characters and plot as you write?

    ps. This cool picture was created on Photoshop Elements. Now you know what I do when I'm procrastinating.

  • Tip #11: Light. Camera. Action! Directing the light

    Tip #11: Light. Camera. Action! Directing the light

    In tip #10, I explained why you want to avoid taking photos with the sun high above your friend. So where should it go then? There’re several locations where the main light (sunlight) can be placed in relation to your friend. Each location will give you a different effect.

    Directional lightening refers to light that hits your subject from one direction. Simple enough. If you place the single light source directly to one side, the opposite side will fall into shadow. As you move the light source toward the front of your friend—but still to one side—more of the her face will be lit, and the shadows will create contours on the opposite side to the light. If the light source hits your friend face on—in other words, the flash—then the light will flatten out her face since no contouring shadows will be formed. Experiment. Experiment. Experiment. And see for yourself just how the location of the main light can affect the mood and outcome of your picture.

    To make your light source directional, position your friend so that there is something that limits or blocks the sunlight from above. This can be as simple as a tree, a porch, or a window. Experiment with your exposure. You can meter the whole picture so that there isn’t a stark contrast between the highlights and shadows. Or you can adjust your exposure based on the highlights, which will cause the shadows to deepen.

    In the above photo, I metered the girl’s face where the sunlight touched her cheek. I then recomposed the photo to include the side that would be thrown into shadow. According to my camera, this picture was underexposed, but it gave me the effect I was looking for. I also used a bay window for this photo, which increased the amount of light that touched her face. The photo in tip #3 was done the same way, but I used a narrow window so the outcome was slightly different.

    When taking pictures near a window, try to use light that enters the window from the north if you live in the northern hemisphere. If you live in the southern hemisphere, then use a southerly window. This light source will be softer and more flattering. If you don’t have a choice, and the sun is glaring through the window, you can soften it by diffusing it with a gauzy fabric, like a window sheer.

    Have fun experimenting!

  • Rules of Attraction

    Rules of Attraction

    Book blurb: Carlos Fuentes idolized his older brother, Alex, when he was a member of the Latino Blood. So when Alex chose to get jumped out of the gang for a chance at a future with his gringa girlfriend, Brittany, Carlos felt shocked and betrayed. Even worse, Alex forced Carlos to come back from Mexico to join him on the straight and narrow path. Trouble is Carlos just wants to keep living on the edge. And ties to his Mexican gang aren’t easy to break, even hundreds of miles away in Colorado.

    In Boulder, Carlos has to live with one of Alex’s college professors—and he feels completely out of place. He’s even more thrown by his strong feelings for the professor’s daughter, Kiara, who is nothing like the girls he’s usually drawn to. But Carlos and Kiara soon discover that in matters of the heart, the rules of attraction overpower the social differences that conspire to keep them apart.

    First line: I want to live life on my own terms.

    If you haven’t yet checked out the trailer for Rules of Attraction by Simone Elkeles, you’re definitely going to want to. I swear, I must have watched it at least 100 times when I posted it a month or so ago. I’m not a big fan of book trailers, but this one got me excited about the book. Okay, maybe the hot guys had something to do with that, too.

    I’m a huge fan of Perfect Chemistry, the first book in the trilogy. Although I felt Rules of Attraction didn’t quite reach the brilliance of that book—not to mention, it wasn’t as steamy—I did enjoy the book immensely, and had a hard time putting it down. But seriously, it would have taken a lot to out shine Perfect Chemistry.
    I’ll admit, I didn’t think the ending of Rules of Attraction was believable, but I felt the characters were. This is a similar criticism some people had about Perfect Chemistry. But since it’s fiction, I didn’t really care. As long as the characters are believable, I’m good.

    I loved the humor, especially the interaction between Kiara and her best friend, Tuck. Tuck was a great addition to the story, not to mention a perfect source of conflict. Naturally, Carlos is jealous of Tuck, thinking he’s the friend with benefits. Nothing could be further from the truth.

    Another thing I enjoyed was that Simone Elkeles infuses the writing with Mexican idioms (see my post tomorrow on the topic of foreign slangs). The book is filled with swearing and phrases that would leave your grandmother blushing, but the majority is in Spanish, so unless you already know them, or look the phrases up, you don’t actually realize what's being said. You just have a feeling Carlos is cursing or is using a term of endearment. It’s a perfect book if you don’t like a lot of swearing. . . unless you know Mexican idioms.

    While you don’t have to read Perfect Chemistry first, I do recommend it. You’ll have a better feel for Alex and Brittany, plus it’s a great book. The nice thing is the two books are nothing alike. The plot and characters are very different.

  • The Day my 5 Year Old Thought She Broke Jesus

    The Day my 5 Year Old Thought She Broke Jesus

    My 5 year old, Katie, loves Jesus. She loves him with her whole heart... even if she doesn't fully understand everything (really who does?). She 'tries' to understand (which makes it hard for ole Mama who is having to turn into a Biblical Scholar to answer all of her questions... but that's ok because I'd rather she ask me and to KNOW about Jesus than to NOT know).

    Anyway, Katie always tries to be a good girl. She tries to take care of her little sisters. She is the typical oldest child who does too much for others.

    But she is as sweet as can be.

    Last Thursday, Katie came up to me and said, "Mama, I asked Jesus to come live in my heart. And he said yes."

    Well, to be honest. I didn't know what to do. I was ELATED that my baby girl had thought enough to ask Jesus into her heart, but I was worried that she was so young that maybe she didn't know what she was doing, etc. I decided to encourage her, and to let her decide when/if she needed to be baptized (She's just 5 after all... but that is another story).

    But I told her that I was so happy that she did that... and that she had to take care of Jesus now that he live in her heart...

    And that is when, I think, this story took a wrong turn... (uh oh... anyone see foreshadowing????)

    A few days later, my girls were play fighting. They are 18 months apart and sometimes they wrestle... laughing the whole time. I usually allow it for a while until they get too wound up. Apparently, I let it go a BIT too long that day.

    Chloe, my 4 year old, hit Katie...

    In...

    The...

    Chest!

    OH MY WORD!

    TEARS... BIG HUGE TEARS filled that girls face as she ran to me yelling, "CHLOE HIT ME! She broket my heart! She BROKET Jesus. And Jesus Ran AWAY!"

    It was one of those mom moments that isn't funny... but telling it back later makes you chuckle.

    I hugged her... she was REALLY distraught. She kept saying, "She broket my heart! She broket my heart! And Jesus ran away!"

    I finally got he to calm down enough for her to listen to me. I wiped her tears away and said, "Katie. Jesus loves you. And even if Chloe 'broket' your heart in tiny pieces, Jesus would never want to leave. He would stay with you even if he could leave because he loves you that much."

    Well, that seemed to satisfy her. She wiped her tears and went off to play.

    And then, of course, I started thinking about us. How many times have WE thought we 'broket our heart and Jesus ran away'? But guess what, ladies? Jesus loves us. He would never want to leave us. He would stay with you even if he could leave... because he loves you that much!

    As for Katie, well, she told me later that her heart had been fixed and now Jesus had a nice home in there again... at least until her sister breaks it again...

    Much Love,

    Kelly

  • A Song of the Righteous

    A Song of the Righteous

    I'm so excited! My good friend Kathi-Ann graciously heeded the call I posted a few weeks ago for a guest poster while I worked on the Bible Study. I'm so glad she did. I think she did a wonderful job... enough of my blabbing. Here is Kathi-Ann...

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    I’ve never done this guest posting thing before, so I’m not sure how to start out. I guess I can share a little bit about myself. I’m a single mother of two (Bud, 8 and Boo, 4) and a student. I’m a year (or so) away from my bachelors in psychology. I’ve got two blogs, one (for lack of a better word) is a cooking blog, and the other was inspired by Kelly and is a religious blog. My religious background, I don’t know how different I am from Kelly’s normal readership, but I’m LDS. Oh, and I love to sing. And that is what I’ve elected to write about.

    There’s a scripture in my church, something that almost everyone knows, certainly by the time they are out of high school. To paraphrase “A song of the righteous is a prayer unto me” and church is always full of songs. OK, so most of the people there are picking out the melody and barley hitting the right notes, but you can still fell the spirit.

    Kids sing all the time, including mine. They love it. They spend half an hour (give or take) on Sunday just learning songs and the meanings behind them. My kids learn a lot of songs that I knew when I was a kid and I love to sing with them. One of them is just a simple song about reading the scriptures, and recently my daughter (the 4 year old) has been singing it. I love that song, I have since I started singing it when I was a kid.

    It’s a lovely song to have in your head. The tune is catchy and the message is beautiful.

    I love to read the Holy Scriptures, And, every time I do, I feel the Spirit start to grow within my heart— A testimony that they’re true. Search, ponder, and pray Are the things that I must do. The Spirit will guide, and, deep inside, I’ll know the scriptures are true. So, prayerfully I’ll read the scriptures Each day my whole life through. I’ll come to understand. I’ll heed the Lord’s command And live as he would have me do. Search, ponder, and pray Are the things that I must do. The Spirit will guide, and, deep inside, I’ll know the scriptures are true. “Search, Ponder, and Pray” Jaclyn Thomas Milne and Carol Baker Black
    My son doesn’t like to admit it, but he loves the songs to, and when Boo and I are singing he’ll join in…until I look at him, then he pretends that he’s annoyed.

    There is one more thing I’d like to share. I’m in a community choir in the town I live, unique I think, in that we don’t sing religious pieces to show off our skill, but we sing them to bring others closer to Christ.

    
    This is us at our practice tonight (doesn’t my cell phone take amazing pictures). Our director (the guy standing in front…it’s kind of hard to tell) loves to have us sing spirituals. You know, like traditional gospel music like you’d find in the south. I think this is hilarious. I think, in the 200 some odd people we’ve got in the choir, two of them have some sort of rhythm to them. And those people are the pianist and the director. They try but we are about the sorriest bunch of white people you’ve ever seen trying to sing songs like “Go Down Moses” and “Goin’ Up to Glory”. Our attempts are usually laughable at best, but on the night of our concerts something amazing happens.

    No, we don’t manage to pull out of ourselves some as yet unknown ability to sing the music the way it was intended. We are still just a bunch of uncoordinated southern Utahans’ who don’t seem to know any better. But as we stand on that stage, singing about trying to get to the Promised Land and trying to find God there’s a transformation.

    It’s no longer about if we can sing the music as it was written, or as another choir would sing, it’s about God and spreading the message of love and joy that He shares with all of us.

    As I was standing at practice tonight, in a hall as old as our town with a broken air conditioner in 108 degree weather, I started to cry. I could feel the spirit surrounding us. It wasn’t even a concert and He was there with us.

    The song we were singing was “On Jordan’s Story Banks” (arranged by Howard Helvey) and the line…well, it wasn’t just one. It was the whole thing.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-zksaadkd4

    Just the whole song, just…I don’t know how to adequately explain the feeling I get when I sing this song. The choir in the above video sings it at a faster clip than we do. My director takes it at a flowing place, the transitions are harder…not the right word, but it works, and the sprit that comes from it is amazing.

    I know that I’m going to ‘go home’ one day and that I am sharing that message.
    So, there was a point to this long post that Kelly has been gracious enough to let me share with you all, and that is to sing. Always.

    Keep a song in our heart and he will always be with you. Another song that I sang when I was a child was “Hum Your Favorite Hymn” and basically said that if you ever have to chase away bad thoughts that you should just think of your favorite hymn. I’ll be honest, I still do this today. Sometimes it’s just “Hum Your Favorite Hymn” sometimes it’s a favorite hymn or something that we’re singing in choir, but it is most effective.

    Hum... still rambling. Just one last thing, always sing. Even to yourself. Keep those songs going around in your head through the day and you will always feel closer to

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    Thank you, Kathi-Ann so much for that :) I really enjoyed it. I appreciate it :)
    Please visit Kathi-Ann's blogs at http://www.dothisinremembranceofme.wordpress.com/ and http://www.studentmamacook.wordpress.com/
    (Linked with Women Living Well Wednesday )
    

  • Sweet Saturday Sample:

    I forgot to sign up for the 'official' link, but I still wanted to do a sweet Saturday Sample:

    Fall in the Great Smoky Mountains brought millions of
    people to the otherwise rustic region to drive up the mountain, hike
    the trails, visit Cades Cove, go to the famous theme park, or just do
    some Christmas shopping in the cities of Pigeon Forge and
    Gatlinburg. They were drawn to the mountains for the splendor of
    the colorful leaves adorning and then falling off the trees. Around
    October, the trees turned from deep green to bright yellow, burnt
    orange, and brilliant red hues. It wasn’t surprising that most people
    visited the mountains during early fall, which was precisely why
    David hadn’t planned their trip for October. “Too many people,”
    he said.

    The Grant Gospel Church Youth Group arrived in the city at
    the foot of the mountain two weeks before Thanksgiving.
    “So this is the famous Gatlinburg?” Carly Jones stretched
    from her seat beside Rachel.

    “Sure is.” Rachel smiled at her friend, happy to have her
    awake and semi-­‐‑coherent.

    Carly sat up and pulled her long brown hair into a high
    ponytail. She leaned across Rachel and peeked out of the window
    at the rural scenery. Even though Gatlinburg was a city, it had the
    quaintness of a small town. Two streets ran parallel through the
    city, and it was an easy walk from one end to the other. The city
    sold hillbilly chic and used images of the bears that roamed the
    mountains as mascots. They were plastered everywhere.

    “Interesting,” Carly mused as they passed one of the many
    hillbilly mini golf courses.

    “Your enthusiasm is contagious.” Rachel laughed. A bit of
    sarcasm tipped her voice.

    “Oh, I’m enthusiastic about the hike. I think that will be fun.
    But not so much spending two days away from home with
    Sidney.”

    “You’ll live,” Rachel said, turning off her e-­‐‑reader and
    placing it in her lap.

    “I guess.” Carly shrugged, crossing her arms with a sigh. “I
    suppose this trip won’t kill me.”

    “That’s the spirit.”

    “Of course,” came a voice two seats ahead, “you could
    always be killed by a bear. I hear they are known for preying on the
    sweeter among us.”

    “Sid, save it for someone who cares,” Carly moaned, rolling
    her eyes at the guy who had once meant the world to her. Rachel
    had nothing personal against Sid. He sinned like all of them, but
    Sid’s sin had hurt her best friend, and that in turn hurt Rachel. She
    prayed that Sid got in a hiking group that didn’t contain her or
    Carly, so she wouldn’t have to hear them arguing all day.

    “Children,” David called from the front seat. “No one is
    dying on this trip, got it?” he emphasized, keeping his eyes on the
    narrowing road leading through the city. “No one is getting killed
    by a bear or a coyote or a snake…”

    “Sid should know all about snakes,” Carly spat.

    “And no one is bickering,” David stressed. “Got it? We are
    here to have fun, not to audition for a soap opera. We are going to
    show the people of the Smokies what good, upstanding teenagers
    come from Georgia, and we are going to live as Christianly
    examples in all areas of our trip. Does everyone understand that?”

    “Yes, brother,” Sid sighed. “Are you here to spread your
    Christianly example?” Rachel heard him ask the boy next to him.
    She rolled her eyes. Why did he have to make a joke about
    everything?

    Carly eyeballed her ex. “I can’t stand him.” She slumped in
    her seat, pulled her legs toward her, and picked at the lint on her
    dark wash jeans.

    “Well, you are going to have to make peace with him for the
    sake of us all. It’s going to be miserable if you don’t. He’s asked for
    forgiveness. Don’t you think you should give it?” Rachel prayed for
    all of their sakes she took the advice.

    Carly’s eyes bugged out like they might jump out of their
    sockets. “Rachel, I love you, but I don’t feel like hearing the ‘you-­‐‑
    have-­‐‑to-­‐‑forgive-­‐‑him-­‐‑because-­‐‑Jesus-­‐‑forgave-­‐‑you’ speech. I’ve
    already heard it from my dad. You are my friend and are supposed
    to be on my side.”

    “I am,” Rachel said, trying her best not to get defensive. “But
    being mad at Sid isn’t going to do any good. He messed up. Sure,
    yeah, it was a major mess-­‐‑up, but still. Time to move on, don’t you
    think?”

    “Major? I caught him kissing that blonde bimbo, Easy
    Emily,” Carly reminded her as if she could ever forget. She talked
    about ‘Easy Emily’ every chance she got. “I’m sorry, but it’s going
    to take a while for me to get over that.”

    Carly laid her head back on the seat and stared in Sid’s
    direction. Rachel had no idea how to help her friend. Her
    experience with boys consisted of seeing them at school and at
    church. Dates had to be mom approved, not that anyone had ever
    asked.

    “And why did he bring Asher Jenkins, anyway?” Carly
    asked, still eyeballing him. “It’s not like he even goes to our
    church.”

    Rachel shrugged. “Who knows? Maybe just to be nice?”
    “Ha,” Carly laughed. “Sid wouldn’t know nice if it bit him
    on the butt.”

    “You guys do know we can hear you, right?” Sid said,
    leaning around his seat. Embarrassed, Rachel’s cheeks turned as
    bright as her hair.

    Carly didn’t seem to care. She ignored him and continued
    right on talking. “Did you know that Sid and I dated for six
    months, and in that time I could count on one hand the weekends
    Asher wasn’t at his house? It’s crazy. Does he not have a home?
    And now he’s here… wonder what’s going on?”

    “Curiosity killed the cat,” Rachel whispered and wished
    Carly would do the same.

    “Yeah, and CPR brought it back.”

    “That makes no sense,” she had to laugh and shook her
    head, causing the wild curls that had escaped from her messy bun
    to dance. She moved a rogue strand that had fallen in her eyes and
    tucked it behind her ear.

    “Neither does love.” Carly sighed. “Neither does love.”
    Rachel might not have had much experience with boys, but she
    knew that expression. Carly looked at Sid with puppy love mixed
    with the need for revenge. Not such a great combination.

    “Leave the boy alone,” Rachel told her. “It’s not worth it.
    Besides, you have other problems.”

    “Like what?”

    “Like walking a five-­‐‑mile trail with a ten-­‐‑pound backpack in
    bear-­‐‑filled mountains.”

    Carly’s face dropped and a wrinkle appeared between her
    brows. “Oh, yeah. That.”

    When the van pulled into the Thorne Stone Inn parking lot
    at around eight o’clock, Rachel was relieved. Her legs needed a
    break. David and Susan went inside the office of the two-­‐‑story
    building with a cabin appearance to ask if their rooms were ready.
    Vanessa Dryer, the Senior Pastor’s wife, stayed behind to watch the
    group.

    Sid got out of the van first, stretching his sore muscles and
    cracking his neck. Asher followed. Soon only Carly, who refused to
    get out as long as Sid was around, remained in the van.

    The group congregated in the parking lot, waiting for what
    seemed like forever to hear if they could get in their rooms. Rachel
    prayed that they could. She wanted to leave her suitcase and
    freshen up before the hike.

    When it became clear David and Susan would be a while,
    Vanessa told them they could roam the property but to stay with a
    buddy and not wander off. She told them that she trusted them but
    not that much. Vanessa was always honest like that.

    With Carly showing no signs of emerging from the van,
    Rachel had to roam alone. Dawn-­‐‑Alice, Sam, and Heather took off
    toward one of the airbrush t-­‐‑shirt shops close to the hotel. Hope
    Dryer chatted against the van with her mom, Vanessa, and Sid
    disappeared inside the van with Carly. Rachel knew that
    conversation didn’t need her; plus Carly would no doubt tell her all
    about it later. Starved, she decided to try to find some sort of snack
    machine.

    Her mom had packed a few snacks in her backpack along
    with everything else on the day hiker checklist. Judging by how
    heavy it had felt, her mom had also packed a lot of things that
    weren’t on the list. The bad news was her bag and snacks sat on the
    floor next to Carly, and she had no intention of going and
    interrupting that conversation. Spending an extra dollar seemed
    well worth it.

    Rachel felt inside of her emerald green coat pockets for some
    change. She loved her coat and tried to find a shirt to match it for
    the hike. The best she could come up with in her closet was a dark
    teal one with three buttons up the top. At least it was warm.

    After walking around for five minutes without any luck,
    Rachel started to question if the hotel even had a snack machine.
    About to give up, she spotted one down the hall facing the creek.
    At the moment, it was being held up by Sid’s friend, Asher. Having
    no idea anyone was around, he stood there, fiddling with some sort
    of black rectangular thing. When he saw her, he threw it in the
    inside pocket of his hike-­‐‑inappropriate, black leather jacket.
    Well aware of his family’s reputation, Rachel jumped to the
    obvious conclusion: he had some sort of drugs or maybe a little
    black book with all of the names of the women he’d hooked up
    with scribbled inside. Either way, it didn’t need to be on a church
    trip.

    “David’s gonna be mad if he catches you with that.”

    “I doubt if David does anything to me.” Asher smirked and
    amusement lit his eyes. It made her a bit ticked that he found it fun
    to toy with her. He didn’t even know her that well.

    She plopped herself in front of the machine and looked over
    the rather sparse selection.

    “Why do you think the worst of people?” Asher leaned his
    arm on the machine inches from her. She could feel him staring
    down at her, and her face warmed.

    “If the shoe fits.” She shrugged, and her shoulder rubbed
    against his arm, causing her skin to get little goose bumps. She
    hadn’t expected that.

    He waited until she retrieved her selection, the barbecue
    chips from A-­‐‑2, before he answered. “How about this? You don’t
    assume things about me, and I won’t assume things about you.”

    Her gaze darted up to him. At full height, she barely reached
    his shoulder. “What’s that supposed to mean?”

    Without answering, a self-­‐‑satisfied smirk crossed his face
    and he strolled past her.

    “Asher,” she yelled, but he never stopped walking. He
    hadn’t heard something about her, had he? And why did she care?

  • ... The Memory of a Gnat

    "What is Love?" Bible Study Week 6: The Memory of a Gnat
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    Verse for the week: 1 Corinthians 13:5 (Love is not..) rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.

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    A few months ago on one of my blogs, we were talking about holding our tongues-- watching what we say. One lady commented that it would be awesome if we had one of those time delay devices like they use for 'live' tv programs (you know, since the Super Bowl 'malfunction' of '04).
    We could say something, hear how rude or ugly it really sounded, and hit edit before the other person heard it.
    THAT, my friends, would be awesome!!
    No harm, no foul.
    And no one would have to eat the proverbial crow when they say something stupid.
    Unfortunately, we don't have that kind of personal technology. We only have our own flawed selves to edit our words--- and that can cause problems at times (Uh-oh!)
    So, what does all of this have to do with anything??? Read on...
    This week, we are focusing on 1 Corinthians 13-5. But before we get to that, there are 2 verses from our homework that we really need to learn about so we can discuss 13:5 more productively (that's why we do daily verses, you know ;) )
    The first verse is 1 Corinthians 10:24 -- Don't be concerned for your own good, but for the good of others.
    What did you get out of that verse?
    That verse (in the context of the other verses) is talking about people who don't believe exactly as you do-- and that you shouldn't argue over 'trivial' things. We shouldn't demand or order others to believe exactly like we do. As long as they believe in Jesus and that he is the Savior-- then they are your brothers and sisters--- even if they don't play the kind of music you like at their church.
    It doesn't really matter if they believe you have to be baptised--- or color your hair blue-- there is no need to demand they believe like you (like I said, as long as they believe and have accepted Jesus as their Savior). The Bible is your personal relationship with God-- we all read it and get things out of it differently. Churches are all the time dividing because of differing beliefs instead of coming together to win others to Jesus. The Devil is a 'Divide and Conquor' type of dude.
    The second verse I want us to look at is Hebrews 10:17-18-- Then He says, "I will never again remember their sins and lawless deeds. And when sins have been forgiven, there is no need to offer any more sacrifices."
    Once we truly and sincerely ask God for forgiveness, He forgives AND forgets the sin, like it never happened-- And He never brings it up again.
    Um-- yeah, we aren't like that sometimes.
    We *should* be, but we aren't.
    Even when you don't mean to ever mention it again, sometimes anger (or foolishness) gets the best of you and the words either slip out OR they pop back up in your mind and you get upset all over again (and in marriages a lot the person doesn't even know why you are mad-- again).
    Ok, that brings us to this week's verse (you can review it at the top of this page if you want).
    This is going to be another week of "Slap ye ole Kelly upside the head." lol
    Last week, we learned 2 things love IS (patient and kind) and 3 things love is NOT (boastful, jealous, and proud).
    Today, we are going to add to our list...
    *Love is not Rude*
    If you go back and look at the scenario at the beginning of this post, you see it deals with being rude-- speaking before you think can result in being/acting very rude.
    Notebook Question: Ok, be honest, who are you the most rude to in your life? Why do you think that is the case?
    Are you more rude to a stranger or to your own family?
    Do you go out of your way to be 'kind' to influential people and get more irritated with people who can help you get ahead?
    Look back at your notebook question answer: Who do you get rude to the most?
    In my case, it is probably my husband (poor man). I get irritated because he doesn't live up to my idea of 'perfection' (ie he can't read my mind and know exactly what I want-- when I want it--) Lets face it-- that is why we get annoyed with people-- because in some way they haven't lived up to what we expect them to be/do. And that isn't their fault. It's ours because we have unrealistic expectations.
    Paul's "True Love" says that even if we are annoyed beyond belief (did he REALLY just dirty another dish RIGHT after I started the dishwasher?!?) we shouldn't be snippy or rude when we confront them.
    That. Is. Hard!
    Now, that doesn't mean that we can't confront them-- just that we need to be calm when we do.
    If someone is annoying us, we have the option of saying something to them. In fact, that is a much better option than letting it fester inside until it turns into anger (a very dangerous emotion).
    What is the old saying? You can get more bears with honey. When you are rude or demanding, that automatically puts the other person on the defensive and your words are met on deaf ears-- THEN you have a fight on your hands.
    My husband, bless him, has a tendency to walk away when we have arguments. It drives me crazy! *I* have things I need to say--- loudly and with vigor--

    It is better to walk away when you are mad like that...
    Cool off.
    And then talk later when you have cooled off.
    We women know that there are certain times when we are more irritable than others (I know I am). it's so easy to use that as an excuse to say "You know what, MAN!? I have PMS. I'm bloated. I feel like heck... I'm going to be as angry as I want to be and you'd better just look out!"
    (Can you tell that I *might* have said that once... or twice... in my life ;) )
    But that isn't showing love. I guess you kinda are since you are giving fair warning-- but not really. Sometimes we get in those moods when we just want to be mad-- so we are mad--- and then we have to apologizes for it later (Something that is necessary, but not necessarily any fun.). Personally, I don't think crow tastes very good...
    Notebook question: In what ways does the one person you are rude with the most push your buttons? How can you deal with it through love (so next time you can have a game plan)
    *Love Doesn't Demand its Own Way/Keeps No Record of Being Wronged*
    Oh--- how many times have we gotten tired or irritated with someone because we DEMANDED they do something-- but they didn't do it our way?
    They are pretty much darned if they do-- darned if they don't. A no win situation for them as it were.
    "True love" doesn't demand. It accepts that there are different ways to add 3+2-- or hang a picture-- or fold clothes...
    When we finally accept that, we have one less thing to aggravate us (HUZZAH!)
    It is not easy, and we aren't going to be perfect at it. But the point of it is that we try.
    *and Lastly, it Doesn't Keep Records of Wrongs*
    As we learned in Hebrews 10:17-18. God is perfect at this. We-- not so much.
    The Devil is awesome at planting or picking at our memories-- bringing the ones we'd rather not remember back to our mind-- making all of those emotions come flooding back.
    We need to tell the Devil to leave us alone-- and we need to strive to be more like God.
    During 'disagreements' it isn't productive to say things like "You always--" or "you never--". NO ONE 'Always' or 'Never' anything. Those types of generalizations hurt and keep arguments going and even stoke the fire.
    In conclusion, if you wouldn't be rude to a stranger, don't be rude to the people closest to you in your life. If someone is truly sorry for something, stop bringing it back up. It is only living in the past and I dare say we have things in the past we aren't proud of either. The world is full of negative people. Lets try to be throw some kindness in there. :) Lets show others by our actions (and our words) that we love them.
    Notebook Question: Look back over today's lesson, which area do you feel you are the best at? Which one do you need work on, and how can you do that?
    Verses for next week:
    Tuesday~ 2 Thessalonians 2:12
    Wednesday~ Romans 2:8
    Thursday~ James 4:12
    Friday~ Romans 14:10
    Saturday~ 1 Corinthians 13:6-- It does not rejoice about injustice, but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
    Have a great week :) Kelly  

  • It's Raining Awards!

    It's Raining Awards!

    I’ve been busy accumulating awards, but haven’t had a chance to pass them on. Since there’re so many of them, I’ll do some this week and some next week. Also, I’ve moved all my awards to a separate page.

    Mother’s Recognition Award

    Creepy Query Girl gave me this for Mother’s Day, but then I went unplugged. So here’s the belated award for the following moms. Actually, this is just a tiny sampling of all the great writer mom’s out there. I could have listed at least three dozen more.

    Steena Holmes. Works full time, is a writer, and an amazing mom with three kids. Not only that. She's one of my best writer friends. Ever. She knows when I need a shoulder to cry on, and when I need a serious butt kicking.

    Nicole Humphrey. I don’t know where she finds the time to be a writer and a mother to five kids. Nicole, you definitely deserve an award for that.

    Lydia Kang manages to balance being a mom, writer, and physician. Girl, how do you do it? Seriously!

    Lisa & Laura Roecker I'm counting down the days till I get to read these two super moms' book, Liar Society. This is one book, girls, you won't have to email me about. ;)

    Elana Johnson Okay, seriously, who won't want Elana for a mom? She has an amazing voice, and her posts crack me up every time. Plus, she's super supportive to her fellow writers. I'm in awe how she balances everything, including being great mom to two kids.

    Awesomesauce Award

    I’m making this sauce for dinner tonight. Thanks Jennifer Daiker! I don’t suppose you have the recipe?
    The Awesomesauce award goes to the following awesome bloggers.

    Deb Salisbury.

    Melissa Garrett

    Ink Splattered

    Shannon McMahon

    Roland Yeomans

    One Lovely Blog Award

    Yay, another pretty award. Thanks to the headless Candace Granger! So is your daughter headless too? These are some of the other bloggers I enjoy following:

    Bee at Dream Catcher’s Lair

    Erica Spickard

    Christine Danek

    Laura Pauling

    Cheree Smith

    The Prolific Blogger Award

    Another cool award. Thanks Creepy Query Girl (who isn’t nearly as creepy as she pretends to be).

    Meghan Ward

    Tamara Heiner

    Natalie Bahm

    Corrine Jackson

    Alexandra Crocodiles

    Blogger Buddy Award

    This is another one I love. Okay, I love them all, but I adore hummingbirds. Too bad they don’t hang out at our house. I'm sure the neighbor's cat wishes the same thing. Thanks Amparo Ortiz

    T. Anne

    Anne Gallagher

    Simon C Larter. The guy cracks me up every time I read his blog posts or Tweeter tweats.

    Miss V Speaks. Another blogger who has me giggling whenever I read her blog.

    Jessica Bell

    Tagged

    Shannon McMahon tagged me. I’m not going to pass it on because so many of you have already done it. But if you would like to, then consider yourself tagged. :D

    Where were you five years ago?

    Good question. I have no idea.

    1. Returning to work after my twelve month maternity leave (remember, I live in Canada not the US!).

    2. Wishing I wasn’t returning to work after my twelve month maternity leave.

    3. Ignoring my children. No time for them once I returned to my job as a drug rep.

    4. Traveling. But to nowhere exciting (like Medicine Hat. The City of Gas!). All part of my stimulating job.

    5. Waiting. A lot. To talk to physicians and pharmacists. And you think you need tons of patients to be a writer. Try being a drug rep.

    Where would you like to be in five years?

    1. A published author of YA novels.

    2. Spending time with my family. Though in five years, most of my kids will be teens and won’t want to spend time with me.

    3. Traveling to interesting places. (No more The City of Gas for me!)

    4. In a bigger house. Seriously with three teens, this is going to be essential.

    5. Still madly in love with my husband.

    What is on your to-do list today?

    1. Go running with my daughter while she bikes.

    2. Go biking with my kids.

    3. Volunteer in daughter’s kindergarten class

    4. Read read read

    5. Clean bathrooms edit my wip

    What snacks do you enjoy?

    1. Chocolate

    2. Mangoes

    3. Diet Coke

    4. Strawberries

    5. Chocolate. I know I already said that but it bears repeating.

    What five things would you do if you were a billionaire?

    1. Donate it to worthy causes.

    2. Not tell my kids. Think of Paris Hilton if you wonder why.

    3. Travel.

    4. Live in a bigger house and hire someone else to clean it.

    5. Make a big difference in other people’s lives.

  • What My Kids Think of their Writer Mama...

    Samantha Combs, author of GHOSTLY among others, has a really cool blog feature. She interviews kids on what they think of their mother/father being a writer.

    Two of my kids, Katie (7) and Chloe (5) are guests on her blog today. And I just have to say, their personalities match their answers lol.

    For example:

    Chloe doesn't want to be a writer when she grows up-- she wants to be a ____________ and live in the 'spin' cycle.

    And Katie doesn't want to dedicate her book (if she ever wrote one to her Mama). She wants to dedicate it to ___________ and save him from dying.

    Proud Mommy moment!

    Anyway, head over to SAMANTHA COMBS WRITES and read my girls' time in the spotlight :)

    8 MORE WEEKS!

  • No 12 Stresses of Christmas today...

    In the wake of everything that's happened in Connecticut, I don't feel it's right to 'complain' about the stresses of Christmas... not today.

    Instead of typing, I'm going to hug my kids a little tighter tonight and pray for those families who would love to have these 'stresses' as they start to plan their child's funeral.

    ~Kelly

    Lord, there are no words. We don't/can't understand why someone would do what that boy did. In the last few months, we our sense of safety (which has been holding on by a thread since Columbine/ Virginia Tech/ 9-11/ Aurora) fell out from under us. We want to understand, but we can't. All we can do is hug our families, thank you for them, and live each moment to the fullest because we most certainly aren't promised a tomorrow. Be with the grieving, the scared, the angry, the hurt, the mournful, the in shock, the families, the community, the country, the world... we need it. In Jesus's name I pray. Amen.

  • My Attempt at 'SuperMomdum'

    My Attempt at 'SuperMomdum'

    (Note: Today's Brag on God is a bit different... )

    So...

    Yesterday afternoon, my 6 year old came into my classroom crying after school.

    BIG, monster tears.

    Her friends were going to the 'big football game... and she wasn't.'

    If you don't know, I live in a small Southern town. Friday Night Football in the fall is the be all, end all of everything. The world stops on Friday nights during football season. The stadium is packed and 'everyone' (well most everyone) is there.

    

    (That's me and my 3 kids... Well 2 of my kids and one forehead lol)

    *I* personally haven't gone to a game since a year after I was in high school and was kinda hoping that my kids wouldn't want to go until they were at least in Junior High. I like the games and the band, it's just hard to take 3 kids (well hard for me anyway).

    I didn't really want to go last night, but my baby was crying. I felt so bad for her. I mean, it's not her fault that she has 2 little sisters and its hard to let her do things while I lug the other 2.

    So.. I, being Mommy of the Year, told her yes. I'd take her. BUT there were 3 rules:

    1. We had to leave at half time. My kids go to bed early. The baby goes to bed at 6:30 and kickoff wasn't until 7 so yeah, there was no way we could make it all the way to the end of the game.

    2. IF the baby started crying, we had to leave... half time or not.

    3. She HAD to sit with me. She couldn't go running around with her friends. I'm a worry wart and I want my kids with me (this is probably why they will leave me when they get older... probably move out of state... sigh)

    ANYWAY, enough of that pity party (there is much more to come lol)... she agreed to those terms and off we happily went.

    Well, we included me, her, the 4 year old, the 13 month old, and my WONDERFUL sister, Kathy. Off we traipsed to eat, Wal-mart (to get the baby some shoes... she ate her last pair... yup, well there were teeth marks anyway), then to the ballgame.

    Everything was fine and dandy. We were having a good time. Everyone was being good.

    The 6 year old wanted to sit in front of the cheerleaders...

    So we did...

    The 6 year old wanted to sit next to the band...

    So we did (remember I wanted SOOO badly to make her happy because as the oldest, she kinda gets overlooked at times)

    And then *it* happened.

    The 6 year old saw... her friends... running around... NOT having to sit with their mothers...

    And the tears flowed.

    She was so upset that she had to sit with me and 'If Daddy was here, he'd be so mad at you for making me unhappy' Uh-huh... *that* went over well.

    We finally made it through half time and left. The baby and the 4 year old had a great time. The 6 year old... NOT SO MUCH.

    She was furious at me. Huffing and puffing.

    Sigh...

    So yeah, Mom of the Year, I was not.

    My ego was bruised.

    I had no idea how to handle this situation.

    I felt defeated... by a 6 year old (yeah, I can see you parents of teens/adults smiling at me... saying "Oh honey, it's just beginning." I know, and I have 2 more behind her! ;) )

    And of course, after they got in the bed and I was alone, I had time to think. And as most of my thoughts seem to go, I started thinking about God.

    We ask God for something, and He SO wants to make us happy, so He gives it to us.

    We take it, but its not 'exactly' what we want...

    OR we just want more.

    And then we get mad at God.

    We huff and puff...

    How DARE He do this to us?

    WHY doesn't He bless us?

    WHY does He want to punish us?

    WHY do I have to do what HE wants and not go with MY friends?

    WHY is our Heavenly Parent so MEAN?

    Yes, it's true, friends. Sometimes, I act like a 6 year old when it comes to God .

    Reflecting on my feelings from the night, it really made me feel bad for how I must make God feel sometimes.

    She has told me she was sorry this morning... and, of course, I forgive her... not thinking I'll go to any more football games in the future though...

    Maybe..

    Unless she has those big monster tears.

    Much Love, Kelly

    (Linked with Brag on God Friday )