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  • Spinster's Folly by Marsha Ward

    Spinster's Folly by Marsha Ward

    Today is a real treat :) I have Marsha Ward here today to talk a little about herself, how she writes, why she writes, and if she's a pantser or a planner... How did you become interested in the Civil War?
    Author Robert Newton Peck once said that every historical writer has their favorite war. While his was the French and Indian War, mine turned out to be the Civil War. I don’t know what sparked my passion for it. It could have been reading some of historian Bruce Catton’s work, or Gone With the Wind, during high school. My interest certainly did not stem from a personal or family issue, since none of my relatives fought on either side. If they had, they’ve have been Union soldiers, and my characters fought for the South.
    That said, my current novels actually have post-Civil War settings, dealing with the aftermath of that great struggle, so they fit more in the classification of Western Migration novels, or Settling of the West.
    Very cool. Tell us about your novels.
    The Man from Shenandoahbegins as Carl Owen returns from the Civil War to find the family farm destroyed, his favorite brother dead, food scarce, and his father determined to leave the Shenandoah Valley to build a cattle empire in Colorado Territory. Crossing the continent, Carl falls in love with his brother's fiancée while set to wed another girl, but he might lose everything if the murderous outlaw Berto Acosta has his way. Carl battles a band of outlaws, a prairie fire, blizzards, a trackless waterless desert, and his own brother-all for the hand of feisty Ellen Bates.
    Ride to Ratoncontinues from there: after losing the heart of his fiancée to his brother, James Owen leaves home to make a new life for himself. The turbulent world of post-Civil War Colorado Territoryis fraught with danger and prejudice that increase his bitter loneliness as personal setbacks threaten to break him. Then James's journey brings him into contact with another wayfarer, beautiful young Amparo Garcés, who has come from Santa Fe to Colorado to marry a stranger. Through a twist of fate, their futures are changed forever when their lives are merged in a marriage of convenience. James and Amparo undertake a hazardous horseback trek over Raton Passto Santa Fe, battling their personal demons, a challenging language barrier, and winter's raging storms.
    My third novel, Trail of Storms, goes back to tell the tale of a peripheral character from the first novel. Jessie Bingham and her family flee post-Civil War Virginia after her sister suffers a brutal attack, and together endure a perilous trek to New Mexico Territory. When she hears her former sweetheart, James Owen, has taken a wife, Jessie accepts Ned Heizer’s marriage proposal on the condition they wait until journey’s end to wed. But then Jessie encounters James again... and he isn’t married now!
    Spinster’s Follyis the fourth book in the series, and tells Marie Owen’s story. Marie lives in a land that is long on rough characters and short on fitting suitors. Her desire to get married before she winds up a spinster propels her into making hasty decisions that drive her into the arms of a sweet-talking predator, landing her in unimaginable dangers.
    Wow, all of those books sound like they would be great reads. How much research was necessary to make your books so historically believable and where did you conduct most of your research? Did you visit the locations where you set your novels?
    I read 150 books to research my first novel. Some I bought, but most came from the library. Over the years that I’ve been writing the series, I have been able to do some on-the-ground research, and I recently took a trip back East to visit Civil War battlefields and other areas in preparation to write my next book. I’ve also been amassing books on the Civil War in the last year. Lots of books!
    In the earlier years, I conducted several interviews with people familiar with the areas I wanted to learn about. Photographs were also helpful, as were the state guides produced as WPA projects during the Great Depression. I’ve found several very good online sources for research on my later books.
    Are you a pantser or a planner when you write?
    I definitely write by the seat of my pants, once I have an idea for a story and know who my characters will be. I’m doing more planning now than I used to, though, so I don’t spend way too much time rewriting. However, I’ll never again write a complete synopsis early-on. That doesn’t work for me, because my brain then thinks I’ve already written the book.
    While I’m writing, I make various charts and spreadsheets to help me analyze the number of occurrances of different points-of-view, and events within scenes. This helps the revision process goes faster.
    I now use a great writing software program called yWriter5, which allows me to focus on one scene at a time. This is important, so that I don’t become daunted by the vastness of the project. A huge upside to using it is that the software is free!
    I'm a writer too, so I like to ask other writers. 'What's your writing schedule like?'
    Very fragmented. I’m easily distracted, but when I’m white-hot in the initial draft, I can write for up to eight hours, broken up by short breaks. This is only possible because I live alone.
    I wish I had a better schedule. Almost every writer I know wishes the same thing!

    I know I do lol... actually, I wish my fingers and eyelids kept up with my brain lol. Have you held a "day job" in addition to your writing?
    Yes. Through the years I mothered my children, and then worked as a journalist, an educator, and in a retail store. I’ve also volunteered with several organizations, doing websites, newsletters, and a multitude of other chores.

    Something I'm always curious about... How do you promote your books?
    I have a website and a couple of blogs, I’m active on Facebook and other social media venues, and I’m always looking for ways to let people know I’m an author, such as giving talks and networking with various groups. I find that word of mouth from enthusiastic readers drives the most sales, though.

    Advice to anyone contemplating writing a Civil War novel?
    Do thorough research, keep accessible notes, then let the fingers loose.

    Finally, How would you like to be remembered?
    As a kind person who could write a little.
    Thank you so much, Marsha, for being on my blog today... and HAPPY RELEASE DAY!!!!!!

    ~*~*~*~*~

    Book Release Party Nov. 10

    (I love that book cover!!)
    What exactly is Spinster's Folly? Marie Owen yearns for a loving husband, but Colorado Territory is long on rough characters and short on fitting suitors, so a future of spinsterhood seems more likely than wedded bliss. Her best friend says cowboy Bill Henry is a likely candidate, but Marie knows her class-conscious father would not allow such a pairing. When she challenges her father to find her a suitable husband before she becomes a spinster, he arranges a match with a neighbor's son. Then Marie discovers Tom Morgan would be an unloving, abusive mate and his mother holds a grudge against the Owen family. Marie's mounting despair at the prospect of being trapped in such a dismal marriage drives her into the arms of a sweet-talking predator, landing her in unimaginable dangers. This fourth book in the Owen Family Saga is infused with potent heart and intense grit.

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    Marsha Ward is an award-winning writer and editor who has published over 900 pieces of work, including three previous novels in the Owen Family Saga, numerous newspaper articles, and sections in books on the craft of writing. She is a member of Western Writers of America, Women Writing the West, and American Night Writers Association. Born a while ago in the sleepy little town of Phoenix, Arizona, Marsha grew up with chickens, citrus trees, and lots of room to roam. She began telling stories at a very early age, regaling neighborhood chums with her tales as they snacked on her homemade sugar cookies and drank cold milk. Visiting her cousins on their ranch and listening to her father's stories of homesteading in Old Mexico and in the Tucson area reinforced Marsha's love of 19th Century Western history. After many years in the big city, Marsha now makes her home in a tiny hamlet under Central Arizona's magnificent Mogollon Rim. When she is not writing, she loves to spoil her grandchildren, travel, give talks, meet readers, and sign books. Here are links to my author pages at Smashwords and Amazon: https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/marshaward
    http://www.amazon.com/Marsha-Ward/e/B003RB9P9Q/ And links to my Social Media sites: Website: http://marshaward.com
    Author Blog: http://marshaward.blogspot.com
    Character Blog: http://charactersinmarshashead.blogspot.com
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authormarshaward
    Twitter: http://twitter.com/MarshaWard Online Book Release Event at Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/events/333393153425853/

  • What's up with you, Woman?

    What's up with you, Woman?
    Koala

    There are 4 things that are certain:
    The love of God
    Death
    Taxes
    and
    me forgetting something.
    (sigh... )
    This may make you feel differently about me (or you might shake your head and go... "AHHHH! That's me!!). I'm hoping for the latter -- I guess (Don't know how cool it is to hope forgetfullness on a person... )
    ANYWAY, I've rambled so much I forgot my point.
    Oh yeah!
    I'm forgetful.
    Case in point:
    Yesterday at work: (cue flashback music)
    I teach special education preschool. After naptime, we get the kids up, and they go potty, get ready to go home, etc.
    Well, in my brain I said (and I HEARD myself) to a little boy, "Go get some Germ-X".
    Got that?
    Ok, the boy went to the bathroom (a room which doesn't contain Germ-x). And I said, "No.. no. I said get some Germ-x."
    And he looked all confused and perturbed and all, "What's up with you, Woman?"...
    My aide (bless her... she's over 50 and has a much better memory than I have) said, "Um.. Mrs. Kelly. You told him to go into the bathroom and wash his hands."
    I looked at her, blinked once or twice, and said, "No, I told him to get some Germ-x." (because, um, I did... didn't I?).
    And she said (all nice and calm, with a hint of laughter in her voice), "Um, no. You said, 'Go to the bathroom and wash your hands."

    And the little boy just stood there and nodded... like "See I listened, you crazy lady.. har har."

    And my daughter (who is in my class) came out of the bathroom and said that's what she heard too.
    GURG!

    Now, there are 2 options here:
    1. They are all conspiring against me, making me feel like I'm the crazy/forgetful one.
    Or
    2. I have the mind of a gnat.

    Am I the only one who deals with this? Seriously, I'm just 30 (when you get 30 you have to say JUST cause otherwise people assume you're old... ) --- is this what happens when you are 30?!?
    My Brag on God for this Friday is that He's put people in my life that can keep me straight... because, obviously, I need it. :)
    Much Love ~Kelly
    Linked with: Brag on God Friday 

  • The Black Hair Fiasco Day 3

    Well, I have been black headed for a grand total of 3 days now, and I've noticed somethings. 1. I'm not as confident. I thought I would be, but darn if I find myself wanting to run and hide so people don't see me, which is difficult since, well, I have black hair and it KINDA sticks out!

    2. Old people do not like black hair on a young sprout. Of the 3 people who absolutely hated my hair, all of them were 45 and older. The younger people really loved it. Yay young people!

    3. The hair has now changed to an interesting chocolate brown color. I'm liking it more and more as it goes away from gothic black. I'm a closet goth... ok, I'm not. I have no idea how to be a 'goth'. I don't really want to be. I do, however, tend to wear a lot of black and not have dark hair... so whatever that means. Maybe it was yet another phase I didn't live out in my teen years.

    Ok, now to other things... it can't all be about my hair.

    I said yesterday that the OC ff fans are the best in the world, and they are. I love them all, especially those who write replies... BUT there is another group of ff fans I love.. the TWILIGHTERS!!! I have been nominated for a twilight award for a story I wrote called Shades of Gray. NOW, If you are one of those people who laugh and mock FF writers, then go ahead... we do too. I sometimes find myself sitting in my chair when the kids are asleep writing about Ryan and Taylor or Bella and Edward and thing to myself, "Self, you are in idiot for writing something like this when you could be doing something important with your time." My reply to myself? "I work all day. Come home and take care of 2 kids and a DH, I deserve some me time and if it's writing a sex scene with Ryan Atwood then so be it." I have yet to write said sex scene, but you get my drift.

    OH, here is the link to the Twilight Awards http://fallingstarr-mora.blogspot.com/ I'm nominated in the first catagory and like I said, the story is Shades of Gray.

    **I plan on writing a whole thing sometime about how I'm going to vote in the election... but not right now. Now I'm worrying about driving to the 'big city' 60 miles away to an inservice tomorrow and I have no idea how to get there... I have my trusty map quest and that's about it. Wish me luck. I may never be back to update this blog... I may disappear and a body might wash up in the river in 3-4 years... the only way to identify it? It's unnaturally black hair!

  • Blog Tour Has Come to an End :(

    Blog Tour Has Come to an End :(

    It's a little bittersweet. About a month ago, I started contacting blogs to see if I could possibly add them to my CROSSING THE DEEP book blog tour. Every blog, except maybe three that I never expected to answer anyway, either said they would OR they would do facebook/twitter posts.

    All in all, I had EIGHTEEN blog stops! *thud*

    Thanks to all of the blogs, the people who have put up with me for the past 2 weeks on this book blitz, readers, people who comment, buyers of the book, etc. It has been a pretty special 2 weeks for me.
    Here is a list of the participating blogs. Please go over and show them some love :)
    Oct. 8th
    Mom's Tool Box (How the Bible in 90 Days program Influenced me to write the book)

    Oct. 9th:
    Shakin' the Foundation (Questioning your faith)
    Walking In Faith 4 Him (Forgiveness)
    A Word of Encouragement (Encouraging others)

    Oct. 10th:
    K.Victoria Chase (Author Interview)
    Sweet Blessings (If God gives you the passion, He will give you the time.)

    Oct. 11th:
    A Pause on the Path (Is your 'thing' what you expected?)
    Student, Mama, Cook (Time for yourself)
    A Song Along the Way (Young Adult Novels)

    Oct. 12th:
    She Fancied Herself a Writer (How to manage -semi- chaos)
    I Love Devotionals (Unto the End of the World)

    Oct. 15th:
    Undivided (When you see no way out)

    Oct. 16th:
    Do This in Remembrance of Me (Alone in a Crowded Room.. or Forest)
    Daily Surrender to Jesus (Author Interview)

    Oct. 17th:
    Imitation by Design (Why I write Christian Fiction for Young Adults)

    Oct. 18th:
    My Daily Walk in his Grace (When We Know Better)

    Oct. 19th:
    Just a Little Place to Write (A Wild and Crazy Ride to Publication)
    Keepin' It Real (Author Interview)

    ** THANKS TO LAURA from Beholding Glory and Cyndi from Walk in Grace and Beauty for tweeting and facebooking about the book release :)
    And, of course, it wouldn't be a book blitz without buy links ;)

    BUY LINKS: Amazon Barnes and Noble Astraea Press
    Wow! A great read for teens or adults. Wonderfully written. From a great start to a fantastic finish. I can't wait for her next book.-- Review from AMAZON Bought this book today and cannot put it down! I will be finished by tomorrow and I am so excited as each new chapter and character develops! -- Review from AMAZON Kelly Martin is an amazing author! She really sets the bar high for her first novel. I really enjoyed reading this book. The descriptions of the Smokies alone make you feel like you are right there with the characters. I highly recommend this book and look forward to reading more from her -- Review from Amazon ... If you enjoy fiction (and even if fiction isn't really you're thing) you'll be entertained by this young adult novel. I would certainly recommend it for any lover of a good action/adventure story. -- Review from AMAZON

    Crossing The Deep
  • R -- Rejection and FAITH FICTION FRIDAY

    R -- Rejection and FAITH FICTION FRIDAY
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    Today's letter in the A to Z challenge at http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/ is...

    R is for Rejection.
    We talked yesterday about how if you send query letters then you will (more than likely) get a few rejections. Rejections aren't fun (how dare they not like something you worked so hard on!), but they are part of it. You get sad, you move on, and you keep sending them out. Simple as that...
    But if it's not *that* simple for you, I've found a site that has the number of rejections famous authors have gotten over the years. The link is: Wavy Lines. Go visit because I'm not going to write them all...
    I found out that:
    Harry Potter (J.K. Rowling): Rejected 12 times
    Mary Higgins Clark: Rejected 40 times
    A Time to Kill (John Grisham): Rejected by 15 publishers and 30 agents
    Twilight (Stephenie Meyer): Rejected by 9 agents and 5 no responses (which equal no)
    Carrie (Stephen King): Rejected 30 times
    SO, the point is for you (and for me). Rejection doesn't equal bad or give up. It means to keep going and find someone who does love it-- if not, write something else and keep going :)
    That said...
    WELCOME TO THE VERY FIRST FAITH-FICTION FRIDAY!!!!
    *Balloons... confetti... streamers!!!*
    Because I'm sure this will cause some confusion, I'm going to give you the deets below.
    1. I will post a picture.
    2. You will get inspired by the picture and write a 100 word (give or take) story (either fiction or non-fiction OR devotional).
    3. You will post your story in the comments section of this blog below.
    4. You can post your blog on the link-up after you've added a story to comments.
    5. Somewhere on your blog, put the Faith-fiction Friday button.
    6. Since this is new, I'm asking, begging, pleading, kissing your feet, to please spread the word about this. I'd love for this to be a great place for people to read and write Christian fiction (believe me, there aren't many places on the internet that have it).
    If you have any questions, just ask. Like I said, I'd love for this to just be fun-- but it won't be fun for me (or anyone else) if no one participates (I'm paranoid that I'm going to check back after work and there be no comments or links up... )
    Anyway...
    Here is today's picture:

    Image: federico stevanin / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

    Linked with: Faith-Filled Friday Good luck and happy writing :) Remember to post your stories in comments and link up below.

  • S -- Sweet People

    S -- Sweet People
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    Today's letter in the A to Z challenge at www.a-to-zchallenge.com is...

    S is for Sweet, Sweet people.
    Sometimes, people do things and it makes you smile (I guess smile could have been our S word-- actually lots of words could have been.)
    I want to say a BIG Thank You to the people who participated in the first Faith-Fiction Friday. It actually did better than I thought it would-- especially for the first week. It will be a weekly event here at OTMA so I hope you come back and participate again. I LOVE reading short stories, and like I said, there aren't many places on the web for short Christian fiction. Please head over to that post and click on the people who linked up. Each have a wonderful blog and would appreciate the visits.
    Yesterday was also a big day for one of our FFF participants. She had a lot of firsts-- First blog party, First writing contest (though it not really a contest-- the ideas the same), and the first time she copied a button code. You can read all about her exciting day at Catching Foxes.
    I also want to thank the Sweet, Sweet People who have encouraged me and this blog (along with my other blog) over this past year. I would name you all, but I'm afraid I'd miss someone and I don't want too.
    And lastly, the Sweet, Sweet People who take the time to make blog hops every week to spread God's word. There are a lot more, but 3 I participate in are Laura's at Beholding Glory, Shanda at A Pause on a Path, and Tracy at My Daily Walk in His Grace. Those are just a few of the great blog hops around the web: OH yeah there's Courtney at www.womenlivingwell.org as well.
    Today's post is a little scattered, but I wanted to take time to thank the sweet, sweet people who I've 'met' while blogging. To all of the followers and commenters-- THANK YOU!
    For all you readers, thanks for taking the time to read. I know your time is precious (and short if you are like me). You didn't have to read, but you do. That means a lot.
    For all of the people who send me emails about adding your blog to the Encourage 365 Blog Directory -- you are so sweet. Your emails make me smile :)
    Jenifer at Sweet Blessings for giving me something to add to my bio when I sent my queries to agents. (My first magazine writing credits.)
    And to my big sister, Kathy, who reads (pretty much) everything I write. And sends me 'Oh wow' texts when I tell her about some "big" (to me) news. BIG SMOOCH!
    There are so many sweet, sweet people in the world. Who are the ones in your life? Is there anyone you want to thank for being sweet? Take time to do that today. :)
    Have a great Saturday :) Remember, Faith-Fiction Friday is still open if you'd like to add your story.
    Much Love,

  • The Day my 5 Year Old Thought She Broke Jesus

    The Day my 5 Year Old Thought She Broke Jesus

    My 5 year old, Katie, loves Jesus. She loves him with her whole heart... even if she doesn't fully understand everything (really who does?). She 'tries' to understand (which makes it hard for ole Mama who is having to turn into a Biblical Scholar to answer all of her questions... but that's ok because I'd rather she ask me and to KNOW about Jesus than to NOT know).

    Anyway, Katie always tries to be a good girl. She tries to take care of her little sisters. She is the typical oldest child who does too much for others.

    But she is as sweet as can be.

    Last Thursday, Katie came up to me and said, "Mama, I asked Jesus to come live in my heart. And he said yes."

    Well, to be honest. I didn't know what to do. I was ELATED that my baby girl had thought enough to ask Jesus into her heart, but I was worried that she was so young that maybe she didn't know what she was doing, etc. I decided to encourage her, and to let her decide when/if she needed to be baptized (She's just 5 after all... but that is another story).

    But I told her that I was so happy that she did that... and that she had to take care of Jesus now that he live in her heart...

    And that is when, I think, this story took a wrong turn... (uh oh... anyone see foreshadowing????)

    A few days later, my girls were play fighting. They are 18 months apart and sometimes they wrestle... laughing the whole time. I usually allow it for a while until they get too wound up. Apparently, I let it go a BIT too long that day.

    Chloe, my 4 year old, hit Katie...

    In...

    The...

    Chest!

    OH MY WORD!

    TEARS... BIG HUGE TEARS filled that girls face as she ran to me yelling, "CHLOE HIT ME! She broket my heart! She BROKET Jesus. And Jesus Ran AWAY!"

    It was one of those mom moments that isn't funny... but telling it back later makes you chuckle.

    I hugged her... she was REALLY distraught. She kept saying, "She broket my heart! She broket my heart! And Jesus ran away!"

    I finally got he to calm down enough for her to listen to me. I wiped her tears away and said, "Katie. Jesus loves you. And even if Chloe 'broket' your heart in tiny pieces, Jesus would never want to leave. He would stay with you even if he could leave because he loves you that much."

    Well, that seemed to satisfy her. She wiped her tears and went off to play.

    And then, of course, I started thinking about us. How many times have WE thought we 'broket our heart and Jesus ran away'? But guess what, ladies? Jesus loves us. He would never want to leave us. He would stay with you even if he could leave... because he loves you that much!

    As for Katie, well, she told me later that her heart had been fixed and now Jesus had a nice home in there again... at least until her sister breaks it again...

    Much Love,

    Kelly

  • Love Struck @ FFF

    I was going to post about my AWESOME shopping trip where I bought enough food for a family of 5 (ie us) for about 7 days for $50 (I'm so excited about it!) and I will... but man, I'm not feeling so great today.

    Hopefully, I"ll get the post up tomorrow. UNTIL THEN, Please head over to Faith Filled Fiction and read M.J. Wille's story for the week. It's got romance, heart, and faith. All things we need to read about sometimes. Much Love, ~*~Kelly~*~

  • The Enchanted by Elaine Cantrell

    The Enchanted by Elaine Cantrell

    This is the last week to enter to win one of 5 free PDF Advanced Review Copies of THE DECEPTION OF DEVIN MILLER (coming out July 23rd). Click here to enter!

    The Enchanted by Elaine Cantrell

    Blurb : Forced by his father into a marriage he didn’t want, Prince Alan soon finds that his bride isn’t the sweet, submissive creature he expected. Morgane has the heart of a dragon and beauty beyond compare, but she isn’t thrilled about the marriage either. When black treachery threatens the kingdom, Morgane and Alan embark on a perilous journey that has an excellent chance of ending in failure and death for them and all their people.

    Excerpt : Morgane advanced on her enemy with deadly purpose.
    "No!" Alan roared. "She has a knife."
    Morgane tried to retreat, but it was too late. Aili's knife caught her in her thigh. Blood spurted as if from a fountain. Renweard was closer to her than Alan. His sword rose. Aili breathed her last as Morgane swayed and slipped to the floor.
    Alan ran across the room and cradled her in his arms. In seconds he was coated with blood. "ʺWe must stop the bleeding!" he cried. "Where are the healers?"
    ʺI will find one." Renweard left the room at a run with King Bowdyn right behind him.
    Morgane's eyes fluttered open. "Your arms around me. No heaven can compare.ʺ
    Alan pressed a kiss to her hair. "I love you, my brave Morgane."
    Morgane sighed. "I could not let you face this battle alone.ʺ Author’s Note : After spending most of the last ten years writing contemporary romance, I decided it was time for a change. So in the spring of 2012 I wrote my first romantic fantasy, The Enchanted. Several challenges immediately presented themselves. First, I knew that I didn't want the fantasy to overpower the romance which meant I'd have to balance my world building details with the romantic elements.

    Challenge two was finding characters who'd fit into my newly created world. I didn't want plastic, stereotypical characters. I wanted real people with warts and human imperfections, people whose lives and problems would draw you in and make you care about them.

    My third challenge was to craft a plot that included fantasy elements, yet at the same time allowed my characters to be in charge of their own destiny and in the process grow and change.

    I'm pleased with the way it turned out. I enjoyed the experience so much I have another fantasy/sci fi romance in the wings waiting for December and its turn at publication. Given my new love affair with fantasy romance, will I write contemporary romance again? I sure will. I'm working on one right now, and I just love it. It will be my first full length romantic comedy. Author Links: http://www.elainecantrell.com http://www.elainepcantrell.blogspot.com http://www.twitter.com/elainecantrell http://www.facebook.com/elainepcantrell The Enchanted is sold at most online retail outlets.
    Reviews: A sweet story, easy read, fairytale/fantasy/romance 5 stars. Teresa Cypher on Amazon
    A wonderful story that has swept into my heart. I will be remembering this one for a long time and reading it again.
    Tifferz Book Reviews on Goodreads

  • Mysterious Ways... (Brag on God Friday)

    Mysterious Ways... (Brag on God Friday)

    Ah... the Lord works in mysterious ways.

    We've all heard it, but sometimes He smacks us right up side the head with it! Those are the fun times... well if you count oral surgery 'fun', but I guess you need to know the beginning of the story.

    Yesterday, I had surgery to remove my 4 wisdom teeth. Now, I only got 2 out because one of them was worse than the doctor thought and I only had 20% left on my knock out meds so I have to go back and do it all again... oh joy. Naw... it worked out for the best. I won't be as scared the next time, and I'll have time for this one side to heal before I have to have it done again. AND I can chew on that side of my mouth which is awesome since I'm STARVING...

    BUT, that has nothing to do with my Brag on God Friday. I know... you are wanting me to get to it.

    I had the surgery Wednesday... TUESDAY I WASN'T going to! I had talked myself out if it. I sent my sister (my poor sister) lots of texts explaining all of this too her. I was too busy to be 'out of commission' for as long as I thought I was going to be (that's my 3rd out of 3 posts about what I learned in the dentists chair... stay tuned... dun... dun... dun!). I told her I should wait until my kids got older... I told her lots of things. I was a bit freaked.

    And my sister... my poor sister... gave me this advice, "Do what you always say do. Pray about it."

    WELL, whollop ole Kelly upside the head!

    To be fair, I HAD prayed about it. I had prayed about it in great length, but it was all about how *I* didn't *WANT* to have it done and all the reasons why. I was trying to make Him see things MY way (and yeah, we all know how well THAT goes!).

    So, finally, right before I went to bed, I had this thought. My alarm clock doens't work all the time. I have to set my phone alarm as a back up during the school year because my alarm clock isn't reliable (can you see where my wheels were rolling??) In my great wisdom, I DIDN'T set my phone alarm... only my unreliable alarm clock.

    Before I shut my eyes for the night, I prayed, "God, I'm leaving this all up to you. If you wake me up in time tomorrow, I'll go get the surgery. If not, I won't." And I went to sleep.

    Now, I know you aren't supposed to test God, but it was all I could think to do at the time. I was giving God the choice...because if it was up to me, I was running for the hills!

    I have 3 small kids (the reasons, I kept telling myself, as to WHY I shouldn't have the surgery). My kids are 5, 4 and 11 months. They are VERY good sleepers. They go to bed at 7 pm and wake no earlier than 6:30 am. EVERY DAY...

    5:45 am... Me, sleeping peacefully because I KNOW I'm not going to have to go have surgery...

    Then I hear it..

    Whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh!

    Yeap, the baby woke up 1 hr and 15 minutes earlier than she usually does. I went in, got her, and asked her if an angel had kissed her awake (she just laughed and smiled and gooed lol). So I fixed her a bottle and, defeatedly, went to take a shower to get ready for my surgery.

    God works in mysterious ways.

    The baby slept until 7 am today. She hasn't woken up earlier than 6:45 all summer.. yet 'somehow' (yeah I know how) she woke up on the exact same day I needed her too... I prayed for it.

    Of course, I had to laugh. I thanked God for the 'sign' and I had my surgery.

    That's not the only thing I have to 'brag on God' on this week!

    God has answered so many of my prayers! More than I could ever even dream of for one week. He answered some of them I had for my husband, my sisters, and my daughter. My 5 year old told me today that she asked Jesus to come live in her heart :) I'm not entirely sure she knows what that means, but I DO know that her and her sister were playing today and she was telling her sister how to get Jesus into HER heart. Some kids play Barbies.. my kids play church. I'm ok with that :) (they play restaurant too lol).

    It has been a really big week of blessings at my house. I learned that the spot that the doctor was 'pretty sure' was cancer... wasn't. I braved oral surgery. The hubs and I had a big, long, awesome heart to heart. My kids know about Jesus.

    And I'm not saying all of this to brag about MY family. We are nothing special (well, we are special to ME, but we aren't special in any big sense... we blend really well). But God has just been right with us this week (as every week, but I guess I'm just seeing it more now). I truly, truly thank him for all he's done!

    I have another blog. It's called http://www.365daysofbiblicalencouragement.blogspot.com/. Its only been up for 5 days. God has blessed me so much writing that. If it was only *me* reading it, it would be a blessing, but I'm so grateful that others are reading it and being blessed.

    Much love and HAPPY FRIDAY!!!!

    Kelly

    Beholding Glory
  • ~Happy Dance~

    ~Happy Dance~

    **Before I tell you my happy dance news, I'd LOVE if you'd click over and read this week's story at Faith Filled Fiction. Stacey has done a great job writing it! I know you will be blessed.

    ~*~

    Last night, I made my first $0.24 as a writer!

    This morning, I made my first $0.48!

    I wrote the Ruth Bible Study for the Women's Ministry at church. I put it on Smashwords for free download, but I had some wonderful friends who said they didn't want it for free... they wanted to BUY it (awesome friends!).

    So, I put it on createspace...

    And now it's on Amazon!

    Ignore the fact that it has Mrs. Kelly Martin as the author (it grates my nerves, but my husband thinks it's sweet ;)).

    Ruth: Faith, Loyalty, Love, Redemption (Volume 1)

    A five part Bible Study on the book of Ruth. This humorous and heartfelt study brings the verses to life and shows how love and respect can change the world. If you are interested in learning more or are interested in buying it, please click HERE. You can also download the free eBook version by clicking the link on the sidebar :)
    *If you're wondering about the other books... 'Crossing the Deep' is still being queried to agents and publishers. If it doesn't get picked up, it's ok. I'll work on it and probably self-publish it (now that I kinda know how).
    *I'm 44,000 thousand words into my second book. (Thanks campnanowrimo! :)) It reminds me of "The OC meets God"... I'll probably finish it up this week, then do edits. The PLAN is to not rush edits like I did the first book and do it right the first few times.
    Both are Young Adult/Christian books which are REALLY hard to sell to agents/publishers, but that's ok. If they are meant to be published, they will be. I just love writing them.
    Much Love,
    Kelly
    Linked with: Women Living Well Wednesday

  • Why My Husband Rocks?

    Why My Husband Rocks?

    Sunday is Father's Day. To celebrate, I'm going to talk a bit about my husband.

    What? What?! You have a husband?

    Yes, Dear Reader. *I* have a husband. I don't talk about him much because, well, I kinda told him I wouldn't (long story)... but I DID tell him I was doing this, and he was ok about it. Who doesn't like be bragged on sometimes?

    Anyway, I thought I'd get all of my husband's awesomeness out in one post... well... the majority of his awesomeness. I could probably think of more if given the opportunity.

    Backstory: The hubs (Brandon) and I have been married for 8 years. We dated a grand total of 2 months before we tied the knot... so, yeah-- we knew so much about each other going into this.

    Over the past 8 years, we have had to figure each other out... what makes the other person tick... learn how to live with each other's faults (me more than him... Ok, so *maybe* I had some faults along the way myself... *maybe*).

    AND we have 3 little ladies! (2 of which are TOTAL Daddy's girls... Apparently they don't realize that Mama carried and birthed them... but whatever, right... hehe)

    We have a nice routine now... well, sometimes it's nice. It's hard. We don't work the same shift so it does get lonely at times... I'm not going to lie. But we try to make it work as best we can. Some days its only a brief kiss and a 5 minute conversation. I truly admire military families who don't even have that daily.

    I've thought how best to descrive his awesomeness. I didn't want to get all mushy because we aren't mushy people. So then I decided that ye ole 'Top 5 List' would be the best way to go.

    So...

    Without further ado...

    The Top 5 Reasons My Husband Rocks

    1. He cleans out the mouse traps.
    Wait!!! Whoa! Stop the train, Nelly-Bell. You mean to tell me 'That's' your number ONE? What about because you love him... or what about how the awesomeness of his being a father? Mouse traps are your number ONE???? (See how cleaverly I can read your mind... )

    Well... yes... THAT is my number one and there is a very good reason why... ALL of that other stuff, the love, the awesomeness of being a father... THAT is a given. I wouldn't have married him if Ididn't love him (no shotguns were required... ). I wouldn't have had a baby with him if I hadn't thought he would be a good father...

    And I wouldn't have had 2 more if he wasn't one.

    All of those things are 'givens'. My top 5 are things he does that make me appreciate him more...

    WHICH leads us back to He cleans out mouse traps.
    I hate mice... I hate mice with a fiery passion. I'm not entirely sure if I'd rather see a dead mouse or a live mouse. All mice pretty much freak me out... Thankfully, the hubs takes care of those rather nasty creatures (sorry nasty creatures for putting you in the company of mice... I'm sure mice have their purpose.. just not in my house!). So score one for the husband!

    2. He holds my hand when I'm scared...
    Even when its a scary movie... in which case he might laugh at me while he's doing it, but it's the thought that counts, right???

    3. Sometimes he says the right thing--- and I don't even have to tell him what it is.
    I feel bad for my husband at times. I'll be upset over something and honestly I won't know why I'm upset and he doesn't either. But he does try to listen. He's not perfect of course--but he does try to make me feel better. Can't ask for much more than that.

    4.He loves to cook--- and is much better at it than I am.
    I'm not a cook. I've never been able to cook well... I can cook tolerable (ie, it's edible). But my husband is a terrific cook. That man can throw something together that you think would be nasty (or I would), but it's really really good when he's finished. My kids have a treat when Daddy cooks. I know he would more if he had the time. Time is a fleeting thing sometimes.

    5. He is really good at decorating.
    Ok, that one kinda irks me.. only because I'm SO jealous of it! I wish I could just look at something and 'make it work'.

    In preparing this post, I asked my ladies why their daddy rocked.

    They said:

    The 5 year old: "Because he plays monster with us!"

    The 4 year old: "Because he is happy."

    The 11 month old can't talk (well she can, but... you know what I mean), but she is a TOTAL Daddy's girl--Never saw a girl's eyes light up so much when she saw her Daddy like E's (thanks kid... )

    There are many other reasons why he rocks... like he knows exactly how to kiss me and make me swoon--even after 8 years.
    ... like how much he loves God--even if his work keeps him from church sometimes.
    ... like how sometimes he stays awake over 24 hours to do something with us.

    You get the idea.

    So, that's it. Now you know there is an actual "Mr." in this home, and that he's a pretty special guy.

    Much love-- and don't forget Quest #4 is due tomorrow!!! :)

    Kelly (aka... 'The Mrs.')

    (P.S. I'm entering this into the "My Husband Rocks" writing contest linked above, however, I had already thought about writing something like this for a while. I just needed a bit of... what is that word????? Ah... MOTIVATION

  • It's Just Wednesday... PLUS Giveaway information and the first Faith Filled Fiction story posted!

    *First of all, I'd love for you to go visit FAITH FILLED FICTION today for our very first story :) Stacey from Shakin' the Foundation did a great job writing it.

    *Also, @ Encourage 365, I'm having a giveaway to celebrate 365 days of continuous blogging. Please click HERE to find out details.

    ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

    Without getting too much into it, something happened this week that made me question things... actually, it wasn't this one event-- it's been building for quit a while.

    I wasn't in the happiest place I've ever been in.

    To tell you the truth, I still don't know exactly what I'm going to do.

    *I DO know that about every blog post I click on has to do with not giving up.

    *The baby woke me up at 3 am this morning (she NEVER does that). I got online for a few minutes before going back to bed and read a post that nearly brought me to tears. Guess what it was about?

    *I went to bed and was flipping through channels. I found something called 'Inspirational... ' something, and I turned it on there (I NEVER turn it on those shows). It was exactly what I needed (don't give up... who do you THINK wants you to give up!). I was sleepy, so I decided to DVR it. I thought it lasted maybe 10 more minutes. I checked this morning, and it's over an hour (can't wait to watch it later).

    *Last night before I went to bed, I had the strongest urge ever to read my bible. So, I had to. I flipped it open to Psalm 119:8. The last part got my attention: (the psalmist talking to God): Please don't give up on me!

    I'm in a doubting time, but that's ok. It's made my husband stand up and really cheer me on. I still have doubts and questions and (I SOOOO can't do that!), but it's ok. I've seen God more this week in my doubts than last week in my 'I can SOO do this' because last week *I* could-- This week *GOD* can.

    Sorry for the ramble.

    Much Love,

    Kelly

    Linked with: Women Living Well Wednesday

  • Along the Way Home-- Christi Corbett

    Along the Way Home-- Christi Corbett

    First, I’d like to give a big thank you to Kelly for allowing me to host her blog! I truly appreciate her sharing her readers with me as I celebrate the release of my debut novel. Along the Way Home.
    How a Stinging Rejection Led to a Book Contract Signing with Astraea Press wasn't a decision I took lightly. At the time the contract was offered (on my birthday!!!!!) I had six agents and three editors (Medallion Press, Tor/Forge, and a small press) reviewing requested partials/fulls, an R&R offer from an agent, and an offer pending from another small press.

    I happily walked away from all of the above because I believe so strongly in Astraea Press, and the niche they’ve carved out for themselves in an increasingly crowded marketplace.

    What does that mean? Let me backtrack a bit and reveal something that happened in January of 2013 that perfectly illustrates why I chose to go with Astraea.

    I was rejected by an agent who called my book lovely and sweet, raved about my writing and the storyline, but ended with the statement, “…let your characters engage in sex and describe the sex. As it stands, I’ll pass. Put the sex in and I’ll take another look.”

    I assure you, I have thick skin when it comes to rejections. I’ve racked up my fair share since I began querying, and normally take them with a grain of salt (and chocolate—lots of chocolate), but this one really bothered me. I understand if a rejection is based upon my writing style, the likability of my characters, or a flaw in the storyline—but to be rejected solely on the basis that I choose NOT to include sex? That one didn't go over well.

    So much so that I finally decided it was time to query the one publisher I’d had my eye on for months. A publisher that cares not only for the authors, but for the kind of work they attach their name to. I'd discovered Astraea Press before I started querying in September and really liked the stance the owner, Stephanie Taylor, took against unnecessary sex.

    Bottom line, I’m proud to have my book published with Astraea Press!

    I’d love to hear from you. What is a dream you never gave up on?

    Along the Way Home by Christi Corbett

    They lost everything but their dreams on the Oregon Trail…
    Kate Davis is intrigued when her father reveals his dream of starting a horse ranch in Oregon Territory. Settlers out west value a strong woman, and though she manages the financials of her father’s mercantile her competence earns her ridicule, not respect, from Virginia’s elite society.
    Jake Fitzpatrick, an experienced trail guide, wants land out west to raise cattle and crops. But dreams require money and he’s eating dandelion greens for dinner. So when a wealthy businessman offers double wages to guide his family across the Oregon Trail, Jake accepts with one stipulation—he is in complete control.
    Departure day finds Kate clinging to her possessions as Jake demands she abandon all he deems frivolous, including her deceased mother’s heirlooms. Jake stands firm, refusing to let the whims of a headstrong woman jeopardize the wages he so desperately needs—even a beautiful one with fiery green eyes and a temper to match.
    Trail life is a battle of wills between them until tragedy strikes, leaving Jake with an honor-bound promise to protect her from harm and Kate with a monumental choice—go back to everything she’s ever known or toward everything she’s ever wanted?
    Advance Praise for Along the Way Home …author Christi Corbett unfurls an unforgettable epic romance inside of an epic Western adventure. Beautifully crafted, this debut novel is a tender journey of the heart as well as a treacherous journey of many miles. Eve Paludan, author of Taking Back Tara (Ranch Lovers Romance series)
    A breathtaking account of courage and adventure along the Oregon Trail. Jillian Kent, author of The Ravensmoore Chronicles.
    A dash of action! A touch of intrigue! Loads of sweet, clean romantic promise… Reid Lance Rosenthal, Winner of 15 National Awards, #1 Best Selling Author of the Threads West, An American Sagaseries.

    BUY LINKS:
    AMAZON

    BARNES AND NOBLE

    ASTRAEA PRESS
    About Christi

    Christi Corbett

    I’m addicted to coffee, sticky notes, and the Oxford Comma. I live in a small town in Oregon with my husband and our twins. Our home’s location is especially inspiring because the view from the back door is a hill travelers looked upon years ago as they explored the Oregon Territoryand beyond.
    Along the Way Home is a Sweet Historical Romance. It released in ebook format on June 11, 2013 and will be available in print July of 2013. It is available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Kobo, Astraea Press (my publisher) and several other retailers.
    When I’m not writing I love chatting with readers and writers alike. You can find me in one of the following locations: Email: christicorbett@gmail.com Blog: http://christicorbett.wordpress.com Twitter: @ChristiCorbett
    Facebook: Christi Corbett—Author

  • GIVEAWAY AT Encourage 365!

    If you didn't know, I have 3 blogs (I know... EEK). One of them, Encourage 365 was made because I promised God I'd write 365 consecutive devotionals (one for every day of the year). Except for 2 guest posts, I've done that (or will on June 19th).

    To celebrate, I want you all to have some GREAT prizes! Click HERE and find out how to win. I have 2 of the prizes and would LOVE to have the other 2! (I'm so jealous of you for getting the opportunity to get them!)

    Thanks so much for the support :)

    Much Love
    Kelly

    OH, and don't forget. Our first story at Faith Filled Fiction goes LIVE this Wednesday :) It's a great one-- :)

  • Writers and Mamas: The Little Red Hen Syndrome

    Writers and Mamas: The Little Red Hen Syndrome

    You can enter to win a free advanced review copy of my new book, THE DECEPTION OF DEVIN MILLER! Just click HERE...
    ****Two things before you read this post: Do you know the story of the Little Red Hen... and do you know who Benedict Cumberbatch (BBCs Sherlock) is... Read on... ;)

    **** Do you know the story of the 'Little Red Hen'? It is an old fable. I tried to find the original writer but couldn't (if you have any idea, leave a comment.)

    The basic story (and I'll have a very special reading of it at the end of this post... by a very famous... um... villain/detective *hint* ) is that this little red hen is going to make some bread. She has to plant the wheat, gather the wheat, turn it into flour, and bake it.

    Along the way, she asks her friends for help. The rat, the cat, and the dog all say no...

    Except...

    When the Little Red Hen asks if they want to eat it. They all jump up and go in for supper. And do you know what she tells them? NO! Because they haven't done any of the work.

    So... how does this relate to being a Mama and a Writer? When I first started writing, the husband wasn't very happy about it. To him, it was a hobby-- like his fishing-- and it was taking a lot of time... which it was. A LOT of time (now it takes longer bc of social media lol)
    He was happy when I got my first book contract. He was proud when the book came out.
    When I started writing the second book... wow. He wasn't thrilled. He thought this was a one hit thing, I suppose. He thought one book a year would be great. I had to explain for any writer now days to get their name out, you have to write 3-4 books a year-- which is daunting with 3 small kids and a full time job.
    Finally, when people started actually buying the book and people started talking to him about it, he got very excited! He loved my writing and has made every effort since then to 'give me time' to write.
    It took a year of unhappiness (on that front), but now he's one of my most vocal supporters.
    He wasn't there for the planting, harvesting, or cooking-- but he's there for the final product. Unlike the Little Red Hen, I'm just happy he's on board now :)
    If you are trying to write and there is someone not exactly with you, I understand. But it will pass. My husband is very excited about my self-publishing my 3rd book! I NEVER thought he would be. People surprise you! Okay... great. That hits writing, but what about being a Mama? For months, I took my oldest 2 girls to tumbling practice. Toward the latter, my sister came with me. The husband took them a few times, but mainly, it was me. I definitely paid the tuition (though my mother did pay for the recital).
    The point is, I was there 95% of the time. I did most of the leg work when it came to getting them to and from tumbling.
    On the day of the recital, everyone was there. My 2 year old started acting like a sleepy, cranky 2 year old and I had to take her out. Guess who didn't get to sit in her seat and 'eat the bread' of watching her girls' recital?
    Yup...
    We, as Mamas, get the not so pleasant jobs at times. We get the cleaning up the messes, the arguing, the crying when we brush their hair-- but the others get the 'reward' (the bread at the end of the story)
    Should we get bitter about it? Well, no... doesn't mean we don't sometimes though. It's human.
    What about you? Do you have some Little Red Hen moments in your life? Did they (like my husband) turn around and become one of your biggest supporters? And JUST IN CASE you don't know the story of the Little Red Hen-- and just if you are having a bad day-- here is Benedict Cumberbatch (star of BBCs Sherlock and Star Trek: Into Darkness) reading... The Little Red Hen (Proceed to fangirl now if you must ;) ) (from youtube)

  • Calling all Writers (and all who love to tell a story)

    It's no surprise that I love writing, especially stories on faith. I've been putting them in the 'oh that mom again' blog, but I feel that they need their own space. That blog has just kinda become a 'catch-all', and it's not fair to it.

    I am working on a new blog called 'Faith-Filled Fiction'. I'm looking to lauch it on July 1st. I'm looking for all kinda of fiction on faith. I'd love for the stories to be no more than 1000 words and deal with, well, faith. I won't be able to pay for your stories, but I'm hoping it will grow into a resource for Christian writers. I have big plans for it (don't I always... )

    If you are interested or would like more details, please email me at ohthatmomagain (at) yahoo. com.

    Thanks so much. If you aren't a writer, your prayers in this new site would be VERY much appreciated.

    Imperfectly yours,

    ~Kelly

  • I Very Much Dislike Feeling Stupid...

    To me, one of the hardest things for me to accept is when I do something stupid or commit a sin that I KNOW I'm doing and do it anyway... or think about what I've done later and feel bad about it.

    Honestly.

    It irks me to no end when I say something, do something, feel something, etc. that I know isn't right, but I do it anyway... OR the proverbial "Hindsight is 20/20". I'll do something and at the end of the day think, "What was I thinking????"

    I struggle with this a lot. I know the rules. I read my Bible. I know good/evil, right/wrong. I know I'm supposed to not use foul or abusive language, not to hate, to hold my tongue, to say helpful not hurtful words, to be a worthy wife, to not worry, to not gossip and so on (these passages came from http://www.bibleresources.org/ and are from the New Living Translation version).

    The point is that I KNOW what I'm supposed to do... and sometimes I totally TOTALLY fail. Last night was one of those nights. Sometimes I just get tired of holding my tongue. Sometimes a word slips. SOMETIMES I'd just LOVE to go out and gossip until I can't gossip any more because.. well.. I just do. I worry more than I should. I want so badly to be a worthy wife and mother...

    And yet...

    I fail.

    All. the. time.

    Before this post becomes a total downer, let me shift your eye to this verse. The first that gives me hope, calms my nerves, makes me feel happy...

    Ecclesiastes 7:20-- There is not a single person in all the earth who is always good and never sins (that came from my Study Bible... can't remember the version)

    Lets look at that again:

    New Living Translation
    Ecclesiastes 7:20:

    20 Not a single person on earth is always good and never sins.

    King James Version
    Ecclesiastes 7:20:
    20 For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good, and sinneth not.

    New King James Version
    Ecclesiastes 7:20:

    20For there is not a just man upon earth who doeth good and sinneth not.

    New American Standard Bible
    Ecclesiastes 7:20:

    20 Indeed, (A)there is not a righteous man on earth who continually does good and who never sins.

    Have we got it yet? Have *I* got it yet?

    There is no person on this entire Earth that always does the right thing.

    It's something that we should know... it's something that is pretty common sense, right?

    Then why can't we related it to ourselves... or better yet to our spouses?

    Uh-Oh!

    Yeap, this turned in a direction I didn't intend.

    *I* Know I'm not perfect... far from it. I try to do the right things, but like I said, I falter. I have to learn to forgive myself quickly and not dwell on it. I have to accept that as good as I 'want' to be, I'm not perfect... only ONE person can claim that and I'm not Him (nor do I want to be).

    I don't take Ecc. 7:20 as an excuse either. "Oh, no one is perfect so why even try?" NO, because Solomon also gave a bit of a warning... That's the whole story. Here now is my final conclusion: Fear God and all of his commands, for this is everyone's duty Ecc 12:13

    So, we can and should strive to be good and make good choices, but we will not succeed all of the time and we have to forgive ourselves when we don't...

    AND...

    Our spouses.

    Man, that's hard, right? Our husband does something that we think is probably one of the biggest mistakes of all time (exaggeration there, but you know what I mean). and it takes a while for us to get over it. Well, maybe we should have Ecc. 7:20 tattooed on his head for us to read at all times. Guess what? Our husbands/wives aren't perfect either. They do what they feel is right and if not then they have to deal with the consequences (which is probably a ticked off spouse... ). If someone already feels bad about something, why do we make it worse?

    I need help in this area too. My husband, my kids, my family, my friends, acquaintances, and even myself WILL make mistakes. There is not a single person in all the earth who is always good and never sins.

    I need to remind myself of that about 1000 times a day. Sometimes forgiving yourself (even for silly/stupid mistakes) or your spouse is one of the hardest things to do.

    Much Love and don't forget that tomorrow is the due date for the Great Toy Purge of 2011 :) Looking forward to seeing updates.

    Kelly


  • Faith Fiction Friday

    Faith Fiction Friday

    Happy June! It's been a pretty exciting May for me. Ruth (the free version) hit 100 downloads in less than 2 weeks! And I launched the paperback version (because some people like that better). I've been sending the fiction book (Crossing the Deep) off to agents and publishers. I know that even if I don't get a book deal with it, I've learned SO Much that will be helpful in the future :)
    Also in May, my sister, Kathy, found out that she's getting to preach at a church starting in July, and is on her way to becoming a full time preacher (Happy Dance :) )
    As for June, well, Monday we are starting the Ruth Bible Study at church (squee!). I have to say, I'm kinda nervous. I'm more nervous about reading and finding the inevitable typo and not being able to change it.
    Also, June 7th, is our 9th anniversary! We were watching TV last night and I bolted up, saying, "Do you realize we've known each other 10 years?!" It seems like a long time-- but it doesn't, know what I mean?

    Anyway, enough about me, it's time for Faith Fiction Friday. Why is it up so late? Well, I forgot to do it yesterday. With school out (and TV shows on hiatus), I kinda get my days mixed up.
    I think we have the basics of it, but just in case, here's a review:
    1. I post a picture. 2. You get inspired and write a 100 word story (either fiction, non-fiction, or devotional) about the story. 3. Post your story in the comments section below. Leave your name and word count in the post. 4. Then add your blog (if you have one) to the linky under the picture. Do you have to have a blog to write a story? Nope. This just gives your blog some added traffic-- if you want. 5. Check back and read other's stories. I love reading them. It's amazing how this many people can see one picture and write different things (except for with the rainbow when we all wrote sad stories lol).

    6. Link back to oh that mom again somewhere on your blog. QUESTIONS? Here we go...

    Free images from FreeDigitalPhotos.net

    I thought since we mostly wrote about sad things with the rainbow, wonder what we'd write about with a stormy picture... hmmmmm...
    Can't wait to read your stories!!

  • Behavior Charts... And Why I've been Converted

    Behavior Charts... And Why I've been Converted

    I'll be the first to admit that I have never been a fan of the Behavior Chart. I've used quite a few at school and it just never seemed to work. Either the kids would get tired of it or I would... I'd spend much more time giving stickers than actually teaching. Things would get unruly while I was handing out 'Good' Sticker. Ug.

    I've tried them as a class... I've tried them individually... I've just never liked them...

    Ever...

    Until now.

    Yeap, ole Kelly has had a change of heart (Imagine that... seems to be the norm now days for me lol)

    Backstory:

    My middle child, C, has always been a bit of a handfull. She marches to her own drummer sometimes as it were. She's as sweet as can be, and I definitely wouldn't know what to do without her. However, sometimes, she can be handful (as all kids can be). My oldest daughter is 5. As all kids are, they aren't perfect (Imagine that!).

    We have always had issues with discipline because time outs didn't work all the time, and I absolutely hate to spank them... not saying that I haven't on the rare occassion when I was at my wits end and unsure what else to do... but it never left me with a great feeling inside. I thought there HAD to be something better.

    Cue Internet Search (where I find all my awesome ideas!)

    I can't even remember what I was looking up, but one of the searches came up "Behavior Charts" and this light bulb went off in my head.

    A "Duh" if you will...

    C LOVES charts. She loves lists and knowing exactly what is coming next (a bit like her mother in that regard... ). She has an afternoon/bedtime chart on the refrigerator which has cut down on bedtime meltdowns. It has been a lifesaver (both for me and my ears!!). K also loves working toward rewards (who doesn't)... and well, I had to throw my hat in the ring too because I, too, need lots of improvements (Didn't see that coming, did you???? ;) )

    Anyway, I found that there was ONE piece that I had been missing before... ONE TINY piece of the puzzle that IMO caused my previous Behavior Charts to fail in the past... a Behavior Contract !

    A Behavior Contract is an individual contract with each person on things they will do/not do to reach a certain goal...

    Did that make any sense?

    This is the one I use...

    http://www.freebehaviorcontracts.com/Behavior-Contract.pdf

    (Please know that I don't own these and no copyright infringement is intended. I'm not making any money off of these... sadly... )

    It has honestly been the best thing I could have ever asked for! The first night, my kids and I sat down and they picked the 3 things they wanted to be responsible for the rest of the week. Click on the link to see exactly what I'm talking about. For example, K's choices were "I will pick up after myself." "I will not fuss." and "I will listen to Mama." All goals she got to pick herself with a *little* help from Mama. Then we went and wrote down the Expectations of each goal. ***Important! Only make at most 3-5 goals. They don't have to be perfect... they just have to try REALLY hard not to do that thing that annoys you the most (and you all know what it is that *your* kid needs to work on). If you give too many then failure is inevitable, and that defeats the entire purpose of the Contract.

    At the end, we wrote the privilage/reward and the consequences.

    K's Privilage is that if she connects 7 dots (I'll show that sheet later) then she gets a new crown.

    C's Privilage is that if she connects 7 dots, then she gets new bubbles

    MY privilage is that if I connect 7 dots, then I get a new book (I'm VERY motivated let me tell ya lol).

    After that, I taped them on their bedroom door ala:

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    If you squint REALLY hard you can see my goals... 1. I will avoid whining. 2. I will avoid saying bad words (I don't say them in front of the girls, but I do let one slip sometimes when they aren't around and I'd like to stop that) and 3. I will pick up after myself. See, I need work too...

    Anyway, in the picture, do you see those sheets of the princesses and the castle?

    Those can be found here: http://www.freebehaviorcharts.com/category/free-behavior-charts/ (Again, I don't own them... but I do wish I knew how to upload sheets... I have a few I'd like to offer for free... but that's neither here nor there).

    This is a small sample of the sheet:

    Click to download this free behavior chart...

    It's the actual Behavior Chart. Every day at naptime and at bedtime (because we can't be good all day lol), we sit down at the door, we each go over our goals and whether or not we met them. If so, we take a highlighter and connect the dot to the next number...

    I am happy to say that we are ALL on number 6 and if I can avoid cussing tomorrow... I mean... if the kids do all of their goals tomorrow... we get to get to number 7 and you KNOW what that means!!! Bubbles, and Crowns, and Books OH MY! *They* are a bit excited about it (whistles innocently).

    If they are acting up or fussing or whatnot, I'll just say, "Remember your numbers" and they stop. It's been awesome :)

    I never did say what the Consequences were on the chart. K and C's are time-out/delay in prize. Mine is delay in prize (because time out might be a privilage for me lol).

    The 2 charts/contracts I posted are free to use on the individual websites. However, if you want to go all out, http://www.etsy.com/ has some stores with behavior charts (because lets face it, etsy has EVERYTHING!!). My buddy Ella from http://www.finchfound.com/ found these and suggested I post them.

    The first is: http://www.etsy.com/listing/61323030/006-i-did-a-good-job?ref=v1_other_2
    It's $7.00 USD, but its sent to your email and you never have to buy it again.

    The second is: http://www.etsy.com/listing/57489500/custom-listing-personalized-garden-happy?ref=sr_gallery_38&ga_search_query=chore+chart&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_facet=handmade
    It's a little more expensive at $21.50. but looks really cool and I actually would love it (if I had paypal... or a credit card... or $21.50.) I think my kids at school would really love it.

    So there it is... my endorsement of Behavior Charts (Man I never thought I'd say that!). IF IF IF You use one, PLEASE use a behavior contract along with it. It will make your life 10x easier. My girls give the contracts/chart a glowing recommendation, and I do too. I'm even thinking of using a modified version of one in my classroom next year.

    Remember tomorrow is the deadline for Quest #1 (Organize your Shoes). I'm going to post my progress and I hope you do as well (KathiAnn has already bet us all to the punch.. WTG again!!!!)

    In the meantime, Much love :)

    Kelly